We do not see our loved ones

More precisely, doing this is not as good as dumaem

You may think that your loved ones know perfectly well, but there are two common mistakes all people (the so-called cognitive distortions), which can make people understand each other correctly. In the case of close relatives or friends, these mistakes in a sense, can lead to even greater confusion than with outsiders.

Laurie Santos, a professor of psychology at Yale University, says that even if we are sure that can easily understand what is going on in the mind of another person, in fact, we are fixated on your own thoughts. In addition, the perception of others often influence our own perceptions, and therefore understand the desires of others can be a difficult task.



One of the cognitive distortion called egocentric bias and causes people to project their own intentions and desires on others to a greater extent than they are able to understand.

If, for example, ask the man sitting with his back to you, move the toy on the shelf to the left, then it is likely it will move in the wrong direction, you meant, because for him the left side at the moment - the other. Of course, this is just the simplest example. In spite of the confidence man, people are not perfect and can not read minds.

Another mistake is called alerttsentricheskoy bias. In this case, people often take a different point of view on the real, even if it is wrong, and even if he knows the right answer. So the children, trying to get hold of a box of chocolates will be unnecessary to repeat the silly steps to open it if you have seen before, in the same way as an adult acting.

via factroom.ru