What the church advises flowering ladies who dream of getting married after their 40th birthday

Can I get married after 40? This is the question many of our beautiful compatriots are asking themselves. They are not happy with their career or the opportunity to see the world and enjoy short, but vivid novels. The heart is filled with fear: once before 30 not called under the crown, then at 40 and even more. But is that true? This is what the church says about it.



Marriage after 40 One day, Elder Nikon of Athos was asked: “Is it possible to zealously ask the Lord for marriage to a woman who is over 40?” To which the monk replied: “Let not such a virgin put a cross on himself, let him pray and not despair.” With God’s help, she can create a family and manage everything in this life.”

Our society is ruthless to the weaker sex. Look at Western European, American and Australian women. In their 30s, they breathe full, build a career and enjoy youth and freedom. They are sure that marriage will not escape from them, they must live for themselves.



In our region, a free lady of Balzac age is intimidated by the status of “old-born”. Didn't make it to 40? Your life is over! And these toxic installations very often come from outsiders who don't care about your well-being.

Therefore, the holy fathers hasten to reassure the distressed ladies who are very eager to start a family. God gives happiness to those who can wait. And most importantly, he is willing to accept what he wants.



Why is the last condition so important? If the desire for marriage is dictated by other people’s attitudes (“all friends are married and I am not yet”, “if I am not married, something is wrong with me”), the woman’s request will come from their fear of inconsistency. And fear doesn't contribute to love.

Therefore, the monk insists that you must ask the Lord first of all to cleanse your heart from fear. In his memory, a happy marriage was found by a 48-year-old woman who has never been married. He prayed for her, and at age 50 she found a pious husband. And 2 years later she brought a child into the world. And such stories fill our land. For there is a law: knock and it will be opened to you.



Even if a woman does not receive the request – she does not marry and give birth to a child – she will still benefit greatly from staying in prayer. Whether a woman marries after 40 or not, it is important to leave the result to the Creator.

Who is the one who asks for marriage? The Orthodox Church allows to pray for marriage directly to the Lord and the Most Holy Mother of God, as well as to any canonized saint. It can be a saint close to you in spirit, or your heavenly patron.

It is believed that some saints are given a special miraculous power to help unmarried women. These are popular traditions, but they do not contradict the canons of the Church. The icons of these righteous Orthodox women pray more often than others for a happy marriage.



The favorite defenders of single women are traditionally considered Xenia of St. Petersburg, as well as Peter and Fevronia.

Prayer for the husband of Xenia St. Petersburg Righteousness Xenia St. Petersburg devoted her whole life to helping people and creating good deeds. It is remembered on June 6 and February 6. Here’s what you can pray to the saint these days:

O mother of all-good, all-blessed intercessor Xenia! Hear my prayer and bring it to the Mother of God, Jesus and the Lord God, do not abandon my request, do not forget me, a humble servant of God. As a fragrant color, we glorify you and pray for happiness in the life of the earth. Before your image, before your burial place, I swear that I will be an honest and faithful wife, that I will be humble and obedient, that I will be pious and good-natured. Ask for me, tell the Mother of God about my misfortunes, present me before your holy prayers and my requests.

Give me family love and fast marriage, and put an end to my heartache. Let us live in peace and God-fearing, in love and harmony, that we may honor the Lord. Forsake us not, our hope and hope, and we will send you thanks until the end of our days. Amen!



Marriage after 40: appeal to Peter and Fevronia The Married Union of Murom saints is considered a model from the point of view of Orthodox morality. Prayers can be read at any time of the year. But the strongest is the day of their memory – July 8. Prayer is read on a lighted candle before the image of the saints.

Saints and Blessed Peter and Fevronia, great saints, patrons of marriage, love and strong union. Who can help you, but you can help the servant of God (name) in asking our Lord. Your life, filled with true love and faithfulness, blessed by God Himself, kindles in the hearts of people admiration to this day. Intercessors of the souls of the lost, guardians of hearts seeking peace, peace and grace, respect the request of the servant of God for faith, hope, love and piety.

May the Almighty hear my prayer and light my life with good news, strengthen my love, and give me a strong and faithful marriage. True, sincere, infinite love and feelings, I ask you vividly, Saints, do not turn away from your slaves in a difficult hour. Glory, blessed ones, for ever and ever. Amen.



Having achieved the desired, you should put a candle in the name of the saints or take the flowers to the place of their burial, if possible. Or put fresh flowers in a vase next to their icon and update them as needed.

By strengthening our spirit with faith, we become invincible and gain the power to remove the spell from harmful social attitudes. And with such a treasure in your heart, it is easier to go through life, even if you are “deep over 40”.