Suspicious silence in the apartment bothered me, dialed my daughter, when the sound of the phone rang out of the bathroom, I almost fell on the spot.

“Yesterday I came home from work tired, dreaming only of having something to eat and going to bed. My daughter usually cooks dinner for us, but this time it was quiet in the apartment, I thought no one was home. And then I heard my upset child crying in the bathroom, says Svetlana. Mom and daughter live together. Since Svetlana’s husband cheated on her and went to another woman, the 15-year-old daughter has changed a lot. She dyed her hair purple, became very withdrawn.



Disturbed child "I walked up to Masha, who was sitting on the cold floor crying." When I asked what had happened, my daughter did not immediately tell me what was going on. It turned out that on the way from school, she met a father who was walking by the handle with his second daughter: He didn’t even say hello to me, mom. I pretended as if I didn’t know her, she couldn’t help but cry.



My ex-husband is no different. When he was packing his things a year ago, he noblely left the apartment with Masha, although this is absurd, because I got the apartment from my grandmother. Then Igor said that he would see his daughter and pay alimony.

A year has passed, and from the former neither hearing nor spirit. He dedicated himself to his new family. Despite the fact that he is a narcissist, Igor never deprived his daughter of attention. I don’t know what happened when he didn’t say hello to his daughter. I decided to call Igor and find out what the matter is.



When Igor picked up the phone, he was calm and even talking normally. I asked him if something had happened to him and why he hadn't paid attention to his daughter. The answer struck me: Have you seen your daughter? Hair like a doll, nose piercings and clothes 3 sizes larger. She looks homeless. We became ashamed that she was my daughter, I fell precipitated by these words. How can you talk about your own daughter, she’s an ordinary teenager, we all once wanted to be different.



I told Igor that his daughter was very upset about his behavior. But he didn't care that after school, she probably cried in the bath all night. The ex never stopped: If Masha doesn’t know what good girls look like, let her take an example from my daughter. Next to me was a girl with a neat hairstyle and a beautiful dress.



I realized at that moment that the decision to divorce was the smartest decision of my life. How could I have lived with such an insensitive and stupid person for 14 years? I wasn’t going to listen to that anymore. There was nothing to eat at home, so I suggested that Mashka go to the cafe for pizza. And her reaction surprised me: “Mom, aren’t you ashamed to go out with me?” She wasn’t joking, and that was the worst part. The child became withdrawn and insecure after my divorce.

I will always support my daughter. It doesn’t matter what color her hair is or how many earrings she has in her ear. Masha is a sweet and caring girl, she always tries to help and study well. I want her to know that I love her.”



Adolescence is a tender and at the same time very difficult period in the life of a child. Teenagers take everything to heart, they are hard going through the divorce of parents. An internal storm of emotions that are not easy to cope with, intertwined with problems in the family. Now the girl wants to know what kind of person she is. Teenagers experiment with style, hair color, their behavior changes. It is important to note in time that the child does not cope with the emotional drama. Especially if the teenager’s parents divorced. Here it would be good to take your daughter to a specialist who will help arrange all emotions and experiences, confusing thoughts on the shelves.