Why strict parents guarantee the success of the child Bashny.Net

Nowadays, it is believed that our parents raised us wrong. That we all grew up traumatized, complexed, and unhappy, because strict parenting didn't mean personality, choice, or freedom. Psychologists and benefits for young parents advise giving the child more freedom.





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But observations suggest otherwise. Erika Rasson, a professor at the University of Essex, conducted a study that showed that strict and demanding mothers Successful children grow up. The editorial staff will tell more details "Site".





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It is worth noting that strictness has nothing to do with physical violence. Here we mean the demands and restrictions, but not the belt and buckwheat. The study is based on a survey of more than 15,000 children aged 13-14 years for 6 years. So, children whose parents were very strict, much more perseverance and self-confidence.





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Children who had intrusive and uncompromising mothers often finished college and got good jobs. It may seem strange, but in demanding and strict mothers children became successful. The results of the study showed that girls whose mothers are too persistent are 4 percent less likely to become pregnant at a young age.





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“In many cases, we succeed by doing what we think is most convenient for us, even if it goes against the will of our parents. But no matter how much we try to avoid our parents, their recommendations influence the decisions we make. However, we believe that we decide everything ourselves, says Rasson.





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Even looking at examples from our lives, we can see that the research is correct. For example, parents in an ultimatum forbade you to communicate with Kolka from the second entrance or with Tanyukha, who sits on the last desk. They even explained why this is not worth doing.

Naturally, you circumvented all prohibitions and communicated with them, but already looked more closely at these people. Eventually, you stopped communicating anyway, and you knew your parents were right. Result: In adulthood, you automatically calculate people you don’t need.





Or while your girlfriends at 13 or 16 were running around discotheques and kissing boys, you were forced to do lessons, play the piano, put on a curfew. As a result, the girlfriends entered the vocational training or went to college, and you became a student of a good university, met a representative guy and made useful acquaintances. Once again, strict restrictions have benefited.





It is known that children who were raised strictly, a good sense of responsibility. You keep order, pay your bills, visit your doctor on time, and do a thousand other small things that make other people nervous. You're not. You're just used to it.

Take control of your child’s life. But don't just restrict his freedom or forbid something, but explain why. Of course, he will resist, especially in his teens, but in later life, your correct explanations will turn into his intuition and right prioritization. Permissiveness destroys not only one’s destiny, it destroys entire nations. Hedgehog mittens haven't hurt anyone yet.



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