How to raise an independent child

Parents often care too much about their children. They literally follow them and do everything for them. The result of excessive care is passive, not independent, shy and unadapted to life people.

In order for a child to learn independence, he must be allowed to make decisions. Even if they are sometimes not very faithful, but still accepted without anyone’s help, and therefore deserve respect.

There are seven important things that psychologists don’t advise parents to do instead of their school children to allow them to develop into a real person rather than a weak-willed person.





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1. Don't impose friends Being friends with families is wonderful. But just because parents like other parents doesn’t mean that their children should be friends with each other. They have the right to create their own circle of communication. It would be a mistake to prevent them from doing so.
   
   
   
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2. Do not clean your child’s room instead Everyone should have their own personal space. For a child, this is his room. He must learn to keep order in it. And to know that my mother is not a housekeeper or a servant who will clean up everything he doesn't scatter.
   
   
   
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3. Do not negotiate assessments with teachers Knowledge, not evaluation. If the marks are very important, allow the child to approach the teacher and agree on them. Let him learn to communicate with adults and establish relationships with them. This is his teaching path, not his parental path.
   
   
   
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4. Do not do homework for the student If a child asks for help, of course, you need to respond: explain the material, read with him, speculate on the task. As a last resort, hire a tutor. But in no way take the initiative to do all the lessons for him. Otherwise, he'll never figure it out.
   
   
   
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5. Do not interfere with the child’s conflicts with other children So I want to intercede when it seems that someone else’s child offends his native child. We have to contain these impulses.
   
   In this situation, the opponent is a minor. And he has to deal with his peer, that is, his own child.
   
   
   
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6. Not responsible for a child when they are treated There are parents who are so afraid that their child will say something superfluous or not that they are even ready to answer for him. They are afraid to shame others, and their behavior unconsciously demonstrate to children that they are ashamed of them.
   
   Behind this habit lies a hidden desire to control the child. We need to understand the causes and eliminate them.
   
   
   
   
   
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7. Do not choose a circle of interests for a child Not every adult achieved what he dreamed of as a child. Trying to win back on children is found in every new generation.
   
   If you take your son to study astrology so that he becomes an astronaut, and your daughter to dance classes, you will only satisfy your own ambitions. A small person should have the right to self-determination.
   
   
   
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Development and education of a child of preschool age It is based on completely different principles. We wrote about them in one of our previous articles. You might be interested.

Raising a child with developmental disabilities an even more complex subject. Such children need a special approach. On how to notice violations in time and correctly respond to them, read the next article.