How to stop imposing gender stereotypes on your child

Gender equality is firmly embedded in our lives, but gender stereotypes are so strong that they are difficult to eradicate in one fell swoop. Many parents continue to use the same educationwhich their parents still held.

As a result, a new generation grows up on the ideas of the “strong” and “weak” sex, which is afraid to go beyond the limits specified by their parents. After all, once you stop conforming to the pattern, you immediately fall under pressure from all sides.



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Social education of the child The right social and moral education of children - a complex process. And so that the child does not feel hunted by an animal, unable to meet the high expectations of others, his parents should remove dangerous phrases from their speech. These expressions are so popular that they can be heard in any conversation. But they cultivate the stupidest complexes in the child’s head.



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1. “You can't fight. You're a girl!
   A child cannot fight just because he is female. Fighting is bad for both boys and girls. No need to come up with stupid reasons (“you’re a girl”, “you’re stronger”, “you’re older”), because this will form a distorted picture of the world. It is better to explain in what cases and how the child can and should stand up for himself.
2. “He hurts because he likes you.”
   So a girl who, say, is regularly bullied by a classmate at school (slaps, pulls her hair, or even beats her) should take humiliation with delight? Such propaganda of violence will form in the head of the child the wrong opinion about normal relations. Is violence a sign of attention?
   
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3. "Be careful, you're a girl."
   Repeated repetition of this phrase in the head of the girl will develop the idea that accuracy is a mandatory feature only for girls, which means that boys must be sloppy. But accuracy is not spelled out in the genetic code, and a little man can not be constantly reproached by the fact that he, for example, has bad handwriting. 28
   
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4. A boy needs to provide for a family, and a girl needs to marry successfully.
   The world is changing rapidly before our very eyes, and what was the only right thing 100 or 200 years ago is not considered to be right now. Both boys and girls get much more opportunities to realize themselves, and it is not necessary to realize it through the creation of a family. At an early age, it is generally harmful for a child to think about marriage and procreation.
   
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5. “The girls got better and the boys grew up.”
   Focusing on the fact that girls should be graceful and beautiful, and guys are brave and strong, forms a mindset within which there is no room for everyone else: clumsy girls, as well as guys with a soft character or poor health. This leads to the formation of complexes in their heads.

Schools continue to exist. gender divisionWhere boys learn to make simple devices, twist nuts and hammer nails, and girls sew and cook. The interests of the students are not taken into account. Does the ability to cook yourself breakfast, sew a button or even wield a hammer prevent someone?



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Perhaps the child should be given a little more freedom in choosing what he wants to become and what kind of life to live, rather than being guided by harmful gender stereotypes? By the way, in Italy. social education of the child in the family It is based on two main principles: tolerance and equality. Perhaps some of their experience should be taken over by us?

We have already discussed what prevents the upbringing of a child independent and strong-willed. Listen to these tips, because they are dictated by common sense. Help your child become a truly independent person.