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A wise Japanese proverb says that a husband and wife are like hands and eyes: when hands hurt, eyes cry, and when eyes cry, hands wipe away tears.

But what looks simple on paper isn’t always easy in real life. Psychologists believe that in many ways discord in the family generates the wrong mutualityWhen husband and wife put not each other first, but the child.

The famous Ukrainian psychologist Dmitry Karpachev explains why a woman for the well-being of the family must consider her husband more important than her own baby. And he makes a strong argument for that.





Many women believe that the child is the most important person in their lives. They believe in this theory and do not even want to consider another point of view. But psychologists believe that such a position only destroys the family and creates a poor conditions for raising children.

So the well-known psychologist and TV presenter Dmitry Karpachev, who specializes in child psychology and proper upbringing of a child, gives his arguments in favor of the fact that for a husband the wife is more important than all, and for a wife the husband.

1. Family well-being
   A prosperous family is formed by the efforts of husband and wife. When the wife interacts with the child, a mother-child relationship is formed, and when the wife and husband interact, a relationship called family is formed. And if the husband feels like a “third superfluous”, if he does not receive attention, care and love, then what kind of well-being in the family can we talk about? But only in a prosperous family, where mom and dad are happy, the child will feel comfort, confidence, and security.
   
   
   
   
   
   
2. Good example.
   In order for a child to create a happy family in the future, it is important for him not only to meet the right person, but also to be such a person. It is important what kind of family he grew up in, what kind of relationship he saw between his parents. Therefore, if your children grew up in a loving and harmonious family, then grandchildren are likely to live in the same warm environment.
   
   
   
   
3. Happy old age
   Over time, children will grow up and leave the cozy but cramped parental nest, and that’s normal. Parents, whose lives were focused on each other, will survive this separation painlessly, saying that the children have grown up and let them live their lives. Husband and wife will get a second wind, begin to live more vividly and saturated.
   
   
   
   But if family Closed to the child, then after his departure into adulthood, parents begin to have problems, there is a stupor. It turns out that they have no common interests, no personal life.
   
   In order to somehow dispel boredom, parents begin to interfere in the life of an already adult child, than only spoil the relationship. As a result, they experience disappointment and blame the child for ingratitude. But who's really to blame?
   
   
   
   
   
   

Of course, Dmitry Karpachev does not call to stop taking care of the child, because love and love are not enough. parental support Children need it. He only suggests thinking about the interests of the whole family and setting priorities.

Being a mother does not mean that a woman ceases to be a wife. Distinguish the roles so that each family member is happy. That includes you. And remember that harmonious family relations between spouses - the pledge of a happy childhood of the child.