Diversity of educational methods

The problem of child rearing At different ages, parents do not distribute their attention equally. Most often, the youngest child in the family receives the greatest amount of attention and encouragement. The older child also bears the additional responsibility for the brother or sister, often too early.





Sometimes parents do not even notice how their inflated custody of the younger child infringes on the eldest son or daughter. Often this happens on an intuitive level, but there are cases when parents deliberately deprive the attention of one of the children for the purpose of upbringing.





Editorial "Site" I want to share with you the opinion of psychologist Ekaterina Burmistrovoy on this matter. In addition, we have prepared general recommendations for the upbringing of children with a difference in age, which will help to correctly distribute their time and money so that no child feels deprived.

Family education of children The essence of parenting In general, it consists in correctly directing the child in life and at the same time maintaining a good relationship with him. At first glance, one thing implies the second, but not all parents are able to combine these two points.





Ekaterina Burmistrova identifies four main mistakes that parents make in the process of raising children. Each of them children will remember for life, so try to prevent them or stop doing it now.

1. There is no personal area of ownership and responsibility for each child. “I believe that a personal zone of ownership is necessary for a child from birth. At first, it can be a crib, an arena or a walker, the psychologist notes.
   
   
   
   
   
   While one child is busy staying in a personal property area, parents can pay attention to another child, and then the children can change. No child will feel unwanted or unloved.
   
   
2. Comparison of children. “In no case should you compare a child with a brother or sister,” says Ekaterina Burmistrova. “Such carelessness on the part of parents can create a strong resentment in the child, and also stimulates competition between children, which in the future, siblings can have problems communicating with each other.”
   
   
   
   
   
   The psychologist advises comparing the child only with himself at an earlier age and noting the positive changes that have occurred to him as he grows up.
   
   
3. High expectations of the older child and underestimation of the younger child’s age. “Moms often require the older child to understand his or her own situation, forgetting that the older child is also a child. By the way, up to the age of seven, a child simply cannot put himself in the place of another, since the consciousness of a preschooler by definition is egocentric.
   
   
   
   
   
   
4. Identifying and encouraging one child. “The existence of favorites may not be advertised by parents, but children usually know this intuitively, or at least guess. Remember that the presence of favorites almost always worsens the relationship between brothers and sisters, writes Burmistrova.
   
   
   
   
   
   

You can’t love both children the same way, because every child is different. However, it is necessary to make children feel that parental love for them is equally strong.





To begin with, at least try to equally distribute attention, encouragement, time and treats between children. As we grow older, children will be very grateful for this approach to education.