Disadvantages of modern methods of education

Modern children are raised much softer than we were raised. Strict education It's in the past. Methods are becoming more liberal, parents are trying to become more of a friend than a mentor, and punishment for misconduct is being talked about as a mental trauma for the child. But can such methods prepare a child for real life?





Swedish psychiatrist and author of several books David Eberhard believes that liberal parenting harms both children and parents. And "Site" He shares his view of the problem with you.

A well-known psychiatrist believes that the current generation lacks the rigor and rigidity of upbringing. Parents become hostages of a society in which a child is raised to a pedestal. This raises a whole generation of spoiled, infantile children who have no respect for adults. They are not ready to live in the real world, they are not ready to put up with its laws, because in real life everything is not as it was in childhood.

Eberhard himself is now raising eight children, so his conclusions are clearly not made from scratch. Last year, his famous book was published in Russian. "Children in power"We recommend that all parents read it.





This is what liberal education does when parents do not punish their children, but allow them whatever they point the finger at. Parents no longer behave like responsible adults. They try to be friends with their children, desperately trying to be perfect without daring to contradict or set boundaries. But who in this case should the child learn?





And even though there are not so many such families in our country, there will be more of them, because European currents are gradually reaching us. Many people recognize themselves in this portrait.

Parents are reluctant to take parenting problems out of the family, they constantly feel that they are not doing enough for their child. They come in tired from work and cook for dinner what the child wants, only to avoid having a discussion with him. The child will be allowed to sit in front of the TV for the same reason.



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David Eberhard says, I’m not saying it’s wrong. I'm just saying that a parent's life shouldn't just revolve around a child. There is no scientific evidence that this has any positive effect on the future of children, that they become more successful or carefree in adulthood.”

Psychiatrists believe that the family should not be democratic. The relationship between adults and children is a master-student relationship. There can be no democracy, one teaches and the other listens. Parents are older, they have more experience and knowledge, so they set the rules.



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Children are not porcelain dolls, and you shouldn’t treat them that way. They need to prepare for real life, where everything is different. Criticism, criticism, punishment – all this is necessary for children.

Eberhard says, “Parents in the West are afraid of everything now, believing that even the slightest criticism can hurt a child.” They no longer consider it necessary to tell their daughter in puberty, “Don’t eat so much chocolate, otherwise you will get fat,” because they fear that the girl will immediately go to the other extreme, including anorexia. We may well demand something from the children, they will endure it.”





There is nothing wrong with wanting to protect your child from dangers and disappointments. But there is a huge risk of overdoing it. Overprotection is detrimental to children.

The psychiatrist says, “If we want to have a competent child, we need to let him go to school alone.” By the age of six, a child is already capable of doing so, even in a heavily trafficked city. Parents do not allow this, but at the same time encourage the child to make decisions or discuss each issue on an equal basis with adults.”



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Parents do not prepare children for adulthood at all, fooling them with the fact that nothing bad will ever happen to them, that everything will always be fine, and they are the navel of the earth. From such children grow audacious scumbags who can not really assess their abilities, because their parents never told them that they are doing something bad. Of course you decide, How to properly raise children. Focusing on a child is not the best method of parenting in the world.

You do not need to go from one extreme to another and immediately begin to treat the child, punish the little things. No, we just need to find a middle ground. To each child you need to find an individual approach, your own method of upbringing, which will help to grow a decent and good person.

What do you think about that? Do you think liberal education destroys children? Share with us in the comments!