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What to do if you don’t need three children at 60
When children appear in the family, the usual way of life of parents changes once and for all. As the focus of life shifts, the father and mother think first of all not about themselves, but about their offspring. I guess. live - that's okay. But is it always worth sacrificing yourself? Today we invite you to discuss this topic. And its vivid illustration will serve as our new story.
At the age of 60, my husband and I realized that our children absolutely do not need them. All three got what they wanted from us and just left their father and mother. My son doesn't always pick up the phone when I call. Do we not even have a glass of water in our old age?
I got married when I was 20. Sergey was a classmate of mine and had been following me for a long time. I went to the same university to be there. A year after the painting (for a magnificent wedding, of course, we did not have money), I got pregnant and gave birth to a girl. My husband had to drop out of school and I took academic leave.
Times were tough: Sergey was missing day and night on all sorts of part-time jobs, and I was learning to be a mother. At the same time, she tried to keep up with the university program in order to graduate and get an education. After 2 years, I became pregnant again. Then I switched to a distance, and my husband began to work even more.
Of course, our parents helped us. It was more emotional support than material support. And we never asked them for anything; our porridge is ours. Despite all the difficulties, we managed to cope with the upbringing of two children: the elder Tamara and the younger Sasha.
When my daughter went to school, I finally got a job. Things were slowly going uphill: my husband had a stable job with a good salary for a long time, we were able to equip our housing. After a year of quiet life, I stunned Sergei with the news that we are expecting our third child.
After the birth, I went home with the baby again. My husband started working on a new project and did everything for our well-being. To be honest, I don’t know how we managed, but gradually we came back to stability. When our last baby Anyuta went to first grade, I finally exhaled.
But our adventures did not end there. Tamara had just entered university and reported that her boyfriend had proposed to her. We didn’t stop her because we went through it ourselves. It took a lot of money to arrange a young wedding, and then to solve the problem with the apartment.
When our son grew up, he wanted his own nest. Everything in our family is done fairly. Therefore, my husband and I climbed into another long, but provided Sasha with housing. He quickly got on his feet and got a good position in a prestigious company.
When I grew up, she didn’t ask for an apartment. But in the 11th grade, the daughter began to actively talk about her dreams of studying abroad. Oh, how difficult that time was for us. We were able to send Anya to Poland and were left at home all alone.
Tamara was bubbling with the desired family life. She rarely came to us, although she lived in the same city with us. The son managed to sell the apartment and buy a better house, but already in the capital. He moved and came to his home even less often than his older sister. Anyutka after studying stayed abroad.
So it turns out that my husband and I raised three children, put them on their feet. And they don't care about us at all. I don’t ask for anything from them except a gentle word, at least sometimes. Why is this happening and how to deal with it? Just accept and live now not for the children, but for yourself.
Living for children, it is very important not to forget about yourself and your own happiness. Only happy parents can have happy children. It is difficult to say whether the heroes spoiled the story of their daughters and son.
But one thing is clear: their behavior. consequence of parenting and attitude. I hope they will be able to connect with the children. What do you think needs to be done for that? Boldly share your ideas in the comments!
At the age of 60, my husband and I realized that our children absolutely do not need them. All three got what they wanted from us and just left their father and mother. My son doesn't always pick up the phone when I call. Do we not even have a glass of water in our old age?
I got married when I was 20. Sergey was a classmate of mine and had been following me for a long time. I went to the same university to be there. A year after the painting (for a magnificent wedding, of course, we did not have money), I got pregnant and gave birth to a girl. My husband had to drop out of school and I took academic leave.
Times were tough: Sergey was missing day and night on all sorts of part-time jobs, and I was learning to be a mother. At the same time, she tried to keep up with the university program in order to graduate and get an education. After 2 years, I became pregnant again. Then I switched to a distance, and my husband began to work even more.
Of course, our parents helped us. It was more emotional support than material support. And we never asked them for anything; our porridge is ours. Despite all the difficulties, we managed to cope with the upbringing of two children: the elder Tamara and the younger Sasha.
When my daughter went to school, I finally got a job. Things were slowly going uphill: my husband had a stable job with a good salary for a long time, we were able to equip our housing. After a year of quiet life, I stunned Sergei with the news that we are expecting our third child.
After the birth, I went home with the baby again. My husband started working on a new project and did everything for our well-being. To be honest, I don’t know how we managed, but gradually we came back to stability. When our last baby Anyuta went to first grade, I finally exhaled.
But our adventures did not end there. Tamara had just entered university and reported that her boyfriend had proposed to her. We didn’t stop her because we went through it ourselves. It took a lot of money to arrange a young wedding, and then to solve the problem with the apartment.
When our son grew up, he wanted his own nest. Everything in our family is done fairly. Therefore, my husband and I climbed into another long, but provided Sasha with housing. He quickly got on his feet and got a good position in a prestigious company.
When I grew up, she didn’t ask for an apartment. But in the 11th grade, the daughter began to actively talk about her dreams of studying abroad. Oh, how difficult that time was for us. We were able to send Anya to Poland and were left at home all alone.
Tamara was bubbling with the desired family life. She rarely came to us, although she lived in the same city with us. The son managed to sell the apartment and buy a better house, but already in the capital. He moved and came to his home even less often than his older sister. Anyutka after studying stayed abroad.
So it turns out that my husband and I raised three children, put them on their feet. And they don't care about us at all. I don’t ask for anything from them except a gentle word, at least sometimes. Why is this happening and how to deal with it? Just accept and live now not for the children, but for yourself.
Living for children, it is very important not to forget about yourself and your own happiness. Only happy parents can have happy children. It is difficult to say whether the heroes spoiled the story of their daughters and son.
But one thing is clear: their behavior. consequence of parenting and attitude. I hope they will be able to connect with the children. What do you think needs to be done for that? Boldly share your ideas in the comments!
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