Why our parents are yelling at the kids while relaxing on the beach in Turkey

Communication with the child in the family It greatly affects the formation of his personality. It is in the family that the child receives support and love, it is in the family that he learns to build trusting relationships. In the circle of close people, the child is instilled in certain ideas and views, immediately he gets a basic understanding of how the family functions, which relationships between close people should be considered the norm.

Therefore, a lot depends on parents, because they affect not only childhood, but also the entire future adult life of their child. Obvious facts, but all the more surprising that many parents do not take parenting seriously. And from the outside, this is particularly noticeable.



I believe that children who live in an atmosphere of love and care simply cannot grow up bad. They seem to be saturated with the love that their parents give them, and then themselves, becoming adults, share this love with everyone around them, Nastya writes.



“And here I was on the beach in Turkey. She lay down and watched as parents from Russia rested with their young son. Not only did I have to watch and listen to them, but also many people present. And the sight was utterly bleak.”

It all started when a little child came up to his dad (he called him that, so I guess it was the father, not the stepfather) and asked where his mom was. It seems to be an ordinary and innocent question. But instead of a calm answer, the man turned purple and first spoke loudly, and then completely turned to screaming.

" Are you stupid? I've said a hundred times that she's changing. Don't you get it? Should I repeat the same thing every time? This "dad" got really angry. He couldn't calm down for a few minutes. I was not even comfortable looking at it from the outside.



“How was that boy? How did he feel? What trace remained in his mind? After such a “daddy lecture” he sat sad and completely lost. But then my mother came back and he was a little cheerful. But not for long.

“The child’s mother seemed dissatisfied. I wouldn’t be surprised to know that this woman always looks like this. The boy started asking her something. I just heard him say something about the algae he saw in the water. But she just brushed it off. I got up and went to the water to take pictures. Like, not to the child now, there are more important things...

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And I caught myself thinking that this is not just a family problem. Such relationships are the norm in many families that come from our lands. Phrases like: “Shut up”, “I’m already tired”, “I’ll kick my ass now”, “Don’t get in there”, “Come here!” Who did you say it to? I heard it regularly. Is that how we talk to our own children? ?

I remember a holiday in Italy, where I was a few years ago. I grew up in a normal, loving family, but even I was struck by the way the local parents were relaxing with their children. How much care, caresses and smiles were in their relationship. Often dads were even more gentle than moms. These people enjoyed the rest, and the presence of the children did not annoy them, but only pleased them.”



“And then we wonder that there are many ungrateful and callous children around. But for some reason, we do not want to see where such children come from, at what point they begin to stale. Is it not when they face the disgusting upbringing of their parents?



Someone will say that Anastasia thickens colors, because everywhere there are good parents and bad ones. But shouldn’t we fight such a bad upbringing? Indeed, many European countries have made great progress in this regard. So why not use the experience of Italy or Sweden to better protect children?

Or is it something else? Share your opinion in the comments.