The mechanism of survival in the family of the husband on the example of the royal family

In fairy tales, all problems end when the beautiful prince on a white horse puts a wedding ring on his finger. But as the recent example of Meghan Markle shows, it is much easier to marry a prince than to build a happy life in the family of her husband.



Many women dream of joining, if not in the August family, then at least in a status family with a high position in society and with prosperity. It seems that as soon as you get a husband, the same “happily ever after” will begin.

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At the same time, few people remember the saying of our grandmothers: “To get married is not to attack, no matter how married is not to disappear.” And he doesn't try to imagine his life in a year, five, ten years.



In fact, the “princess” in the family of her husband is not waiting. New relatives simply do not know that now they have to make someone’s dreams come true. They might even be better suited to the servants.



GettyImages To understand whether you can "married not go missing", you need to ask yourself a few uncomfortable questions. And it's better to do it in advance. After all, the complete rupture of relations with the husband’s family can be a disaster for any, even the most star marriage.

Three questions.

1. Mutual attraction is, of course, beautiful. But does your marriage have a “framework” of shared hobbies, joint projects and plans for the future, which will not allow it to disintegrate under the blows of everyday storms? Is there something you're willing to compromise and adapt to?
   
   
   
2. Are there social taboos in the husband’s family and how critical is mesalliance? In the situation with Meghan Markle agreed several such factors: a simple background, a foreigner, older than Harry, was already married. Tradition is not only in royal families. And before the wedding it would be nice to know about such in the family of the husband. Once you understand these features, it will be easier to adjust.
   
   
   
   
   
3. Can you overcome the grievances to build a long-term relationship with your husband’s relatives? Are you ready to close your eyes and eyes? Is she able to stand firm and make it clear that her choice has already been made?
   
   
   

Someone will say that true love will overcome all obstacles. But in any case, it is better to understand the essence of these obstacles in advance, so that it is easy to bypass them, and not punch in the head, risking your marriage and relationship with a loved one.

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