Married to Alphonse, or Where the spouse throws money

Distribution of budget within the family It is an eternal topic that does not lose its relevance. It would seem that it is so difficult to decide once and for all how to spend jointly earned money? But for many couples, this issue becomes a stumbling block. Especially if one of the spouses does not want to contribute to the family budget.



© Freepik "But how is this possible?" you ask. Believe me, we ask the same question, because only, for example, a woman can cope with all the money troubles! But the heroine of our history today has to put up with it. Where her husband spends his salary Why does he refuse to participate in the family? Read more about that.

After the wedding, my husband and I started living in my apartment. At that time, I was already earning quite well, so I paid for the communal service myself. Old-fashioned, so to speak. But the total family budget I wanted to share with Bones, as it should, in General.



However, he always refused, they say, helps his parents, does not earn much and does not want to once again debauch the salary. Well, I kind of missed it and did it myself. I loved making shopping lists, thinking through our diets, and generally doing family things.

But at some point, I realized that literally all family money matters are decided by me alone. Kostya lives as if apart from me and never offers anything to pay or even share with me the total amount of any purchase. He does not refuse to wear new clothes or other things.



My parents decided to move from village to city. They needed somewhere to live, and huddle in a one-room apartment four I definitely did not want. So I decided that it would be nice to think about an apartment on loan. My salary allowed me to talk to my husband.

I offered him this option: I will slowly pay the apartment from my salary, and we will live on his salary. That is, it will be communal and food. In fact, I even calculated how much money a month it would take.



But Costa didn't like it. He's got a shingle again that he doesn't have any money. How is it that you work every day and don’t have a salary? “I give everything to my mother. Don’t you understand? the husband hissed in his defense. No, I don't understand! Of course, helping parents is commendable. But there must be boundaries!

We've been living together for a year now, and I just realized how stupid I am. Carrying everything on myself, without even noticing that my husband doesn't care about it. I am proud that I have a good salary, thanks to which we managed to live in comfort. Is this a normal family relationship? This is crazy.



So, I suggested that my husband move to my mother-in-law for a while. Since he's all about it, let him live on his blood. I don’t want to be treated like that anymore!

From the editorial board, we are convinced that Family relations should be based on mutual understanding and mutual assistance. If both the first and the second are missing, it is unlikely to last very long. In fact, the situation in which the main character of the story is a vivid example of this.



Proper distribution of the budget in the family depends on both women and men. If one of the spouses does not take any part in this, such a relationship can hardly be called healthy. Agreed?

How is your family budget planned? Boldly share their advice and tricks in the comments. Perhaps your recommendations will help one of our readers!