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About household duties and who is destined to wash the toilet in a large family
The question of what should be the fair distribution of household responsibilities in the family is one of the most controversial. And therefore one of the most energy-intensive. Many couples for months, or even years, can not come to agreement on its resolution. Someone does not want to hear about compromises, and someone, on the contrary, diligently avoids this conflicting topic in the hope that everything will somehow turn out by itself.
The same edition "Site" I'm sure putting your head in the sand is useless here. After all, it is much better to immediately settle all the household nuances and calmly enjoy living together than to argue from day to day about who will only wipe the dust from the bookshelves, and who will get other dirty work. What do you say?
One of the saddest misconceptions about cleaning the house is that the restoration of order is a sacred duty of a woman. A man should not worry about such “little things”. After all, he has a much more important and responsible mission - to provide for the family.
Needless to say, for modern times, such a concept of relations is not something that is irrelevant, but simply ridiculous? Is it true that now, when a woman earns as much as a man and is equally tired at work, she does not deserve the banal support of her husband in solving household chores?
Yes, someone may object, they say, the scenario of the development of relationships, where the wife follows the comfort of home and raises children, and the husband maintains the family, still someone is quite satisfied. And that's beautiful. In today’s world, there is no single ideal family. So everyone has their own idea of happiness and improvement of life.
However, this does not negate the fact that cleaning should not fall on the shoulders of one of the spouses by default. To avoid any misunderstandings, it is still necessary to clearly separate household duties. This is best done at the beginning of cohabitation.
And instead of the usual conversation, we suggest distinguishing household chores in writing. Thus, the tasks for each family member will be specifically identified and approved. And so that no one forgets about their tasks, the list can be fixed in a prominent place and, if necessary, return to its study.
After that, there will simply be no reason for disputes about domestic chores. Once the question of who should vacuum and who should wash the toilet was solved, why go back?
Have you ever disputed on whose conscience are the mountains of dirty dishes? How did you manage to solve this problem? We look forward to your comments! Perhaps it is your invaluable experience that will save another family from a divorce on domestic grounds.
The same edition "Site" I'm sure putting your head in the sand is useless here. After all, it is much better to immediately settle all the household nuances and calmly enjoy living together than to argue from day to day about who will only wipe the dust from the bookshelves, and who will get other dirty work. What do you say?
One of the saddest misconceptions about cleaning the house is that the restoration of order is a sacred duty of a woman. A man should not worry about such “little things”. After all, he has a much more important and responsible mission - to provide for the family.
Needless to say, for modern times, such a concept of relations is not something that is irrelevant, but simply ridiculous? Is it true that now, when a woman earns as much as a man and is equally tired at work, she does not deserve the banal support of her husband in solving household chores?
Yes, someone may object, they say, the scenario of the development of relationships, where the wife follows the comfort of home and raises children, and the husband maintains the family, still someone is quite satisfied. And that's beautiful. In today’s world, there is no single ideal family. So everyone has their own idea of happiness and improvement of life.
However, this does not negate the fact that cleaning should not fall on the shoulders of one of the spouses by default. To avoid any misunderstandings, it is still necessary to clearly separate household duties. This is best done at the beginning of cohabitation.
And instead of the usual conversation, we suggest distinguishing household chores in writing. Thus, the tasks for each family member will be specifically identified and approved. And so that no one forgets about their tasks, the list can be fixed in a prominent place and, if necessary, return to its study.
After that, there will simply be no reason for disputes about domestic chores. Once the question of who should vacuum and who should wash the toilet was solved, why go back?
Have you ever disputed on whose conscience are the mountains of dirty dishes? How did you manage to solve this problem? We look forward to your comments! Perhaps it is your invaluable experience that will save another family from a divorce on domestic grounds.
