The main sign that the parents have already abandoned the child

For many parents, the very notion of violating children’s privacy seems unthinkable. How can you violate your child’s space when he’s 16? Parents believe that There should be no secrets. And they have to know everything, every little detail of their child's life.

Let’s first analyze the pros and cons of such behavior in relation to your child. What can be attributed to the unambiguous advantages?

1. You always know the good and the bad. Your child won't be able to get in. really hardBecause his life is under your control. You can quickly solve any problems that may arise in school, for example.
   
   
   
   
2. Healthy Curiosity That Has Boundaries Gives a Child Feeling of reliability, safety and security. If your interest works not only in the direction of control, but also in the direction of constant communication, then this is a huge plus. The child will feel that he is not indifferent, and he will gladly begin to share the news and his emotions.
   
   
   
   

Here are some of the obvious disadvantages of endless surveillance and excessive curiosity:

1. Continuous suspicions undermine all confidence. Do not make your child an enemy that you need to spy on every second. Over time, your son or daughter may intentionally start doing ugliness just out of a sense of contradiction to annoy you. And even then, the reasons for surveillance will actually appear. But why bring this up?
   
   
   
   
2. Each of us needs a personal space. Moreover, each of us must understand that there are personal spaces of others And we have to respect them. How can you learn that if your aspect of life has been neglected since childhood?
   
   
   
   We are the main role models for our children. That is why it is important to take care of their psyche and all its manifestations. Proper distance and knowledge of permitted boundaries They are not only the most important stages of raising a child. It's also important to you.
   
   

Start your relationship with your child in such a way that He told you himself. I had all aspects of my life and felt no pressure. If you’re worried about something, ask. Just start your dialogue gently, tell him you're worried and you want him to be okay.

It doesn’t matter how old the child is. He is already a person who needs everything that an adult needs in the mental aspect. Attention, love and some freedom.



Even if you want to follow your child with the best of intentions, just try to put yourself in his place. What if suddenly the government of your country decided to watch you the same way? Constantly. monitor, search and intervene in every way possible... Even if you have nothing to hide, would it be nice?