"Throw the anchor"
, the Term "anchor" is so widely popular that even people are only familiar with NLP, associated in his mind these two words according to the principle: "Talk — anchor, mean — PNL, say PNL, implied — anchor".
So. Description of the algorithm for establishing tactile faux NLP anchors to replace a steady negative experience into a positive one. Set the anchor of NLP in a pair, working with a partner volunteer.The first step of anchoring
Find some memorable place in the room. Make yourself comfortable there. Ask your partner to recall some trouble from his past. Ask your partner as clearly as possible to refresh her memory to relive the situation again. This will require a certain voltage of the imagination. And to partner it easier to access past experience, you need to ask him the following questions:
The second step of anchoring
- When it was (when it was the first time)?
- How to start and what is end? (to outline a time frame — a frame)
- What feelings do you worry about? Try to formulate them in one word, expression;
- What happened in this situation, the most unpleasant?
as soon As You see that the partner entered an experience -do “NLP-anchored” by touching any area of his body. It can be quite sensitive compression wrist of your partner.“Keep the anchor”, for the duration of the experience.
Then release the partner's hand. The first anchoring over. The third step is anchoring
Find a new place in a room different from where you were previously. (For example, first there was light, standing at the window, the second place — away from the window, the dark, sitting on the couch in the corner). Ask Your partner to remember one of the most pleasant emotional events, the experiences of the past. In order to partner more quickly and more completely gained access to experience and ask him the same questions as in the case of a negative experience. An important comment of the psychologist about anchoring: in this exercise, it is important to remember not just arbitrary “pleasant experience”, namely such a pleasant experience that will be able to join the fight with Mutasim customer's negative experience and to win this duel. This experience should be laid such a powerful resource to help you were able to “drain all the negativity” is named negative memories.
It so happens that the person is unable to find such a powerful positive resource. THEN COMES TO THE RESCUE FANTASY.
Ask your partner the following questions:
- What resource you need to cope with this negative situation?
- Think of it model, pick a.
- Do You know the man (hero) who is this needed resource?
Just at this stage can help Tarot cards 1000 lives. Let Your partner will consider in turn several cards and choose the right his behavior and the image of the character who “knows how to do it.” For example, one my client pulled from the deck a random card “Antipode”. In the card was written: “Enter into the image of a man who is your complete opposite, in origin, education, manners, attitudes... How would he act in your place?”. Rebounding from this significant hint cards, my client began joyfully to dream away on this intriguing subject “And who, indeed, could be my antithesis?”, and we quickly found the desired resource state. The fourth step of anchoring
as soon As the man began to scroll in mind the experience of positive situations (and it was good), do the “positive anchor”. That is, do everything the same as in the first NLP anchor, just on the other side of the body. If You squeezed before right wrist, now squeeze the left, while the experience itself will not stop. Then release the partner's hand. The SECOND part of the ANCHORING — CASTLING We turn to the most important, final part of the anchoring it is important not to confuse. The fifth step is anchoring
After a short break, come back with partner in the place where was born his “positive anchor”. Ask him to relive the negative memory. Once a person has entered into a negative experience, play the first set of negative anchor (for example, squeeze his right wrist). The sixth step of anchoring
as soon As You notice the occurrence of negative experiences with your partner, play a positive anchor (e.g., squeeze his left wrist). Thus, You combine two reactions, combining NLP anchors. Must win a positive reaction, a positive anchor. If this has not happened, although You did everything correctly, then most likely, you found a positive resource was weak and insufficient. The success of this exercise is precisely to find the most — loyal, positive experience which will be able to cover a negative. published
Author: Helen Nazarenko
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©