Do you know how to rejoice

Most adults believes that joy should be a reason, a serious reason. Remember how many times you were happy yesterday? This week?

Remember, children: ironically, the cause for joy was much more!

From the smallest to the largest, and moreover for every day. Well, the holidays? Why now is that there are no fireworks, as in childhood, such as Christmas trees, as a child in such a rivers? Where is all this?





Who we, as adults, determines what is a reason for joy and what not? Recall the reaction of the parents on your children's progress,casual and hard-earned. Well, for example, you come in happy with an excellent rating in the control, proudly announce it to your parents...

And get in response: "Such assessments should always be! It is self-evident!" And how? What's left of your pride and joy? Already like and the shame grows. Next time you think to share with family happy about their "employment success". So there is an experience that no right to feel joy, to share joy, to find joy.

Be filled with joy — it means to become vulnerable. Someone can always devalue your joy and success.So most choose to devalue themselves while others do not have time to devalue you. To criticize, to laugh it off in response to the compliments, embarrassed and change the subject of conversation. Or suffer because someone did not share your joy, devalued your achievement.

And you can just defend your joy from those who are trying to devalue and to share their joy with those who are able to experience it along with you.





Only this we must remember that we, as adults, have a right to enjoy the ordinary things and great victories, casual and hard-earned. We knew this while they were kids, until someone taught us to devalue...

If your children are crying and screaming furiously, maybe they're trying to protect your joy? Try to ask them before to say "Stop, or you'll get even more."

Do you know how to rejoice?

I suggest a test:

Imagine a child, better than his, but someone else is jumping and screaming "yay!" with joy.

Your reaction:

• Shh, don't scream like crazy;
• do not rejoice, and then to cry;
• there is nothing to be happy, you can be even better still;
• but I was your age...
• you are sincerely filled with joy with your child

Alas, the latter reaction is a very rare case. If you chose this option, rather than an alien, or very young, or, luckily, are quite harmonious, emotionally Mature person.published

 

Author: Elvira Khmelnytsky

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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