There is no perfect mom... Bashny.Net

Any mother even could not constantly be ideal. Therefore, there is no person who would not have been "scratched" children's psychological dissatisfactions. But mankind once existed, exists and will continue to live, and among this mankind many happy people, so many childhood wounds successfully healed in the process of growing up.

There is something that the kid needed it then... 0-3-5 years, and what he got is not enough. His misery is absolutely justification. After all, if you have 5 years no bike, and 25 you bought yourself a Mercedes — you have never had a bike in 5 years. This cannot be changed.

So in children is still a feeling that mom was not enough.





Often already adults "adult children" adult "adult parents" continue to prove themselves, each other and others, their truth.

But the General truth is simply no, because no doubt the General history, picture of the last mothers and children, everyone has their own.

Our truth from different ages, generations and even different centuries. For example, now mom of the 20th century, and children of the 21. While the desire to prove to each his own is saved, mothers and adult smart kids, can't get, bag offense stands between them like a sack of offense does not heal those scratches children's dissatisfaction.

The memory of the child's pain makes you build walls of resentment instead of an adult yourself and see the real mom behind this "bag". The memory of the mother on how she raised her baby, and an adult crumbs is no understanding and sympathy for her difficulties, forcing you to build walls of resentment from the other side. When certainly General history, picture of the past, everyone has their own and can not be the same.

Life is too short. It is not always enough to real adulthood happened, and we were able to pass to each their own "wall".

Who needs to become an adult? And mother, daughter, son?

That means growing up?

What is the difference of concepts: an adult and an adult?

To become an adult means to know that we are different people, we may have different views, desires, opinions. That everyone can go his own way in life and this road worthy of mutual respect.

If you had the power to tear yourself and your path from the parent is not enough, then trauma to the development of more accumulated resources.

If the parent does not have the strength to break away from the child, he tries to live a life for your child, then the parent themselves have not lived their own childhood trauma.

Not enough strength in children, means that the daughter or son can't tell his mother: "I will do as you think fit." Not enough force from the mother means that she can't do it with respect unlike her — the way your adult child.

Thus, parent-child separation, with the achievement of harmonious and respectful relations, might is a test on whether you ( as parent or child) to live their children's psychological dissatisfaction.

Or

... how is separation, shows how deep your children's dissatisfactions are they just scratches or do injury development.

Only when we have separated each of their lives, we can move on to an adult stage parent — child relationship — mutual gratitude to each other just for what we have in this world.





An attitude of gratitude and respect to each other is a powerful resource for children and parents. So roots become a resource for young life. And young life becomes a resource for the roots. published

 

Author: Tatiana Egorova P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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