Why I do not send their children to school?
Strange question... I Have a rather puzzling why a smart educated urban dwellers, especially have reached career heights and material security, break their children, innocently concluding their eleven years in this System.
Yes, of course, in the past century in the villages the Teacher was much more developed and financially secure, had a higher social status and level of culture than parents of the children. And now?
The nobles did not send their children to school, organized the training at home...
Why the school child, and why is it parents?
Very convenient for working parents to take the child to the storage chamber under minimum supervision, consoling himself with the fact that everyone is doing. More strange is the position of non-working mothers with wealthy husband, which is so annoying their own children that they even care... give them the impression that these children only to give birth as a way to support themselves financially, and if it were possible to take them to the orphanage without losing money and public opinion, almost all of them would have done...
The child is the same school don't need almost never. I've never had a child who wanted to be at the end of October instead of the holidays continue to go to school. Yes, of course, the child wants to talk or play with friends, but not to sit in the classroom. That is, if you provide the child a comfortable socializing outside of school, visit the school loses child sense...
School children teaches nothing
Now let us examine the popular public myths causing parents to mutilate their children.
The first myth: the school teaches (gives the child knowledge, education).
Modern urban kids go to school already knowing how to read, write and count. No other knowledge acquired in school in adult life are not used. The curriculum consists of a haphazard collection of facts to memorize. Why are they remembered? Any questions much better answer Yandex. Those of the children who will choose the appropriate specialization who will be studying physics, or chemistry again. Remaining after graduation can't remember what they were taught all these dreary years.
Given that the curriculum has not changed for many decades, and it is much more important than the handwriting of a child than desyatiletiy blind printing on the computer keyboard, no really useful knowledge and skills for success in adult life the school child does not. Even if we assume that this set of facts to memorize in school subjects so do the child necessary, it can give up to ten times faster.
How successfully do Tutors, over a hundred hours teaching the child what the teacher has taught for 10 years and thousands of hours...
Generally it is a very strange system, when a thousand hours spread out over several years... at the Institute every subject give larger blocks for six months or a year. Very strange method of teaching, when children are forced to sit still and listen...
The experience of many parents of students shows that several years of teaching the subject over thousands of hours in school plus homework – not help the student to know the subject in an amount sufficient for admission to a good UNIVERSITY. In the last two school years and hired a tutor re-teaches the child the subject – usually a hundred hours enough to be among the best in the class.
I believe that a tutor (or a computer program, interesting books with live text, training videos, specialized clubs and courses) can be taken from the beginning, in the 5-6-7 class are not racking up child after this a thousand hours :) And free time child can find something to do INSTEAD of going to SCHOOL.
School hinders the socialization of children.
The second myth: the school is necessary for socialization of the child.
Socialization — the process of assimilation by the individual patterns of behavior, attitudes, social norms and values, knowledge, skills allowing him to successfully function in society. (Wikipedia)
What can be considered a success in society? Whom we consider successful people? As a rule, established professionals, well-earning their craft. Respected people doing their jobs very efficiently and receive for it worthy money.
In any sphere. Perhaps, entrepreneurs and business owners.
Top-managers. Major government officials. Prominent public figures. Popular athletes, artists, writers.
These people are distinguished, first and foremost, the ability to achieve their goals. The speed of thought. The ability to act. Activity. Willpower. Perseverance. And, as a rule, they are making a lot of effort to achieve results. Can not throw the case halfway. Excellent communication skills – negotiation, sales, public speaking, effective social networks. Skill to make decisions instantly and do immediately. Ability to handle stress. Fast quality work with information. The ability to concentrate on one, discarding the rest. Observation. Intuition. Sensitivity. Leadership qualities. The ability to make choices and be responsible for it. Sincere enthusiasm for their work. And not only in the business – interest and cognitive activity they are often not worse than in preschoolers. Know how to abandon unnecessary.
Know how to find good teachers (mentors) and learn quickly is important for their development and career.
Think systematically and easily take the meta.
How do these qualities school?
Quite the contrary...
All the years of school, it is obvious that none of what sincere dedication it is not – even if the student manages to get involved with a couple of objects I cannot select them, abandoning uninteresting. They are not in the school to study deeply. Most often they are addicted to outside of school.
The achievement of the result no one is interested in – bell rang, and you have to give up what is not completed, and go to your next class. All 11 years of child learn that the result is not needed and not important. Every case should be thrown halfway through the call.
The speed of thought? When targeting the average or weak students? In outdated, inefficient learning methods? With full intellectual dependence on the teacher, when only allowed the mindless repetition of previously announced facts? The student with the highest speed of thinking the lessons are just not interested. In the best case, the teacher just do not prevent him from reading under the Desk.
Willpower? Activity? The system will make every effort to make the child obedient. "Be like everyone else. Keep your head down" – this is the life wisdom, which is necessary for adult success in our society?
Qualitative information the school does not teach – the majority of secondary students stupidly did not understand the text read, can't analyze and articulate the main idea.
Responsibility for the selection? So the students do not give a choice...
Negotiations and public speaking? The development of intuition and sensitivity?
Leadership qualities? The ability to act? Generally not included in the program...
The ability to abandon unnecessary require be reversed, the ability to tolerate years of unnecessary and useless.
Instead of internal references in children produces emotional dependence on often biased opinions of others in the face of the master. This comes amid complete control of the student. The child has no rights with impunity to Express their own opinion.
About universal good teachers in school, alas, can only dream of. Most often, few urban parents are less educated and successful in society than a teacher to prefer a teacher as a role model. With modern teachers is the so-called "double negative selection": first, the technicalities are received by those who could not gain points in a more prestigious UNIVERSITY, and then only the without initiative of the graduates remain to work in the school, others find higher-paying and prestigious job.
Generally the only society that seems to be on the school as an adult, it's a prison. But there prisoners easier than children: they are of different ages, with different interests, they are not forced to do uninteresting affair. There, they understand, for what punished. To release them earlier than 11 years, if you do not receive a sentence for murder.
Classroom – model of the adult society? This is not true – I personally do not live in a world where all people are the same age... Where they have no common interests... Where I am compelled to obey low-paid loser... Where as much as I became interested I in 45 minutes on a call we had to leave it without achieving results and run to another room...
In adults there is a choice: what to do (and you can always change jobs and head) with whom to communicate, what is considered the result of which have interests.
In today's world, the upbringing, education and socialization of the child is the responsibility of parents. Enrolling a child in school, we just settled in, so it didn't bother us. Improving your life now at the expense of his future career and happiness.