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To listen to the authorities and to take useful things from the experience of others helps us to navigate life and make decisions. But sometimes these decisions almost did not include what we think of ourselves.

In critical cases, the person will not think about their interests. And how many couples destroyed because of the fact that one partner is completely dependent on foreign influence, loses his identity and territory.

Find the roots of uncertainty it Turns out that having your own views, beliefs and desires, we so not believe in their importance that they are ready to change the decision at the first criticism. After getting rid of the fact that other people will always Express their impressions about what we do, is unrealistic. And useless the efforts that will be spent on attempts to remake others.

By the way, this is the usual order of things, and rather, the issue is not that someone thinks differently, and that for you it might be traverse and simply destroy your right to your position.

In such conflicts most clearly traced our connection to childhood — the time when we have not yet formed, but had to understand the world often through clashes and protest. Not all was to find a reasonable compromise with those who are older, more experienced and too concerned about our welfare. It is the parents.

How to develop self Growing up, we still are not safe from the intermittent in childhood — the inner child is offended if you don't understand, as if the surrounding is dad and mom, due to always come to the aid and to demonstrate trust and love. To get rid of such representations is not easy, but very important. Otherwise life will disappoint and bring joy.

The best way to get rid of the influence of foreign opinion is to form a very clear your. The one who used to live under someone else's orders, often do not have the experience to Express what he thinks. To do this, try this exercise.

1. Select the question for which you always think about what other people think (where to go on vacation with her husband, what to wear, how to raise children).

2. Write all the arguments against him, you usually hear (you are good with fashion, your friends have more experience, you made a mistake, when acted independently).

3. The second list will be dedicated to everything that reinforces your position. (You have your unique style, these are your children and you better know their character, one mistake does not mean incompetence).

4. Making a decision, ask for the second list. Over time you will learn not only to keep it in mind, but to voice in the debate. published

Source: domashniy.ru/