Personal relationships: We all have a price. Bashny.Net

We all have a price in life, including our personal relationships.
For example, we are evaluated by employers: skills, skills, work experience, additional education, recommendations, health, age. We also evaluate potential life companions. A girl looks at a man and pretends that he is dressed – expensive, looks like health, strength, romantic, caring, reliable financially and personally successful? Men assess, first of all, the attractiveness of a girl, sexuality, the ability to communicate, etc. The word “value” comes from the word “price”, and each person is valuable, but someone is more expensive, just subjectively perceived by people, and someone is “cheap”. For example, girls, for some reason, locksmith Vasya with three classes of education and a corresponding set of familiar words, are estimated as a less expensive contender for the hand and heart than the banker Vova, with two higher educations and a small mansion in the Canaries.

So, there is such a market - personal relationships, which is sometimes called the market of marriage. Every girl or young person in this market is valued. Now more specifically, for example, there is a girl who has qualities and merits, conditionally, for a “dozen”. This includes the ability to communicate, earn money, be independent and other valuable qualities. Any person wants others to perceive him as positively as possible, that is, to note everything positive, and, if possible, not notice the shortcomings. Therefore, any girl (young man) tries to demonstrate their merits - they want to look more expensive.

And that's where the fun starts. A girl, of course, can find a young man she can manage. His qualities and merits should be less, about six, i.e. knowledge and skills, valuable personal qualities, opportunities to earn money, etc. objectively less. In this case, he must pay her extra. What?

What is the universal equivalent of payback in human relationships? - That's right.

If she is a “dozen”, and he is cheaper – a “six”, then he must pay her with the lack of rights and the presence of duties. She doesn't have to call him, and he has to call her first. She has the right to be late - he has to wait for her because he is interested in her. He has fewer rights, he seeks her, and because he is interested, she has more rights to lead him. On the other hand, the young lady is happy to manage this young man, but she wants a guy for fifteen. And then the girl begins to understand that the one who is fifteen is more expensive than her: he is smarter, more beautiful, more talented. By the way, she's on "10," and there are girls on "11," "12," etc., so she's standing in line.

The standard situation is that whoever she wants does not pay attention to her: it is very “cheap” for him. Anyone who doesn’t need it doesn’t notice it.

Life situation? Nothing new is invented, it is.

The dilemma isn't easy. What to do in such a situation? How can we continue to live in this “relationship market”?

Either way, you have to get more expensive. If you really appreciate yourself as a person not very expensive, then you need to understand – what do you need to do to become a dear person?

“If you want a prince around, become a princess.”

For example, what personal qualities are useful to develop? What to add to your communication style? Maybe take care of health, lose weight?

It doesn’t matter how this “personal relationship market” rates you now, what matters is what you do to make each day more expensive. In the morning they woke up, lived the day so that by the evening they had become at least something more perfect, smarter, better, and so on daily. Then you will always develop and grow every day, respectively, increase in value in the “market of relationships”.


Author: Vitaly Pichugin

Source: www.b17.ru/article/180/