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The laws of life from the legendary coach and political consultant Alexei Sitnikov

Alexei Sitnikov, the legend of the world of consulting and coaching, psychology and economic Sciences, Professor, master of business administration (MBA), psychotherapist, NLP trainer with experience teaching and consulting in more than 50 countries, the initiator of the crowdsourcing project KARMALOGIC some of the laws control your life and destiny. The laws gathered in the process of working with experts and broad international crowdsourcing, and analyzed by a team of project specialists KARMALOGIC-based psychotherapeutic and coaching practices.

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Fate favors those who speak about other positive – or says nothing

What I say about other people, makes me a certain attitude on the part of others associated including with images of what I have said – even if were talking about the other. For example, if we speak good, we are perceived as positive, friendly and open people, free from the complexes that don't require hiding their shortcomings by pointing to the same in others. With us is more pleasant and safer to communicate naturally removed alertness. Over time, all around us formed a kind of positive background that attracts to us the same positive minded people. Thus, what we speak actually shapes our environment.

Every day could be our last. The most out of life given to those who consults with his death, planning each day and live in the here and now.

Life is what happens to us now. And, then, every day is the most important in life. Therefore, if we have some desires, dreams, and "importance", you should try to implement them right now and get pleasure from it. And right now you need to communicate with those people with whom we want it. And that often "the least love goes to our most beloved people" (A. Dolsky). To care. Travel. Enjoy life. In the world many people buy every day fresh bread, but eat the old. And during that time fresh bread becomes stale. And, as a result, these people constantly, all his life eating only stale bread. You should be attentive to your life and to appreciate every moment, every impression and experience.

Happy in life those who try to think positively, easily letting go of negativity and not allowing it to influence the life

If there are any negative emotions, grievances, problems – very useful to let them go, refusing to desire evil to others and focusing on the good things that we want in the future.

Will happen to us what we think, including what we wish for others

What happens to us, what we think. Regardless of whether we think about yourself or others. They say: "do Not dig another pit will fall into it himself". So, if we are because some negative emotions towards another person wish him evil, this is first and foremost, we programmed his life and the future. And vice versa. If we wish others well and success, unconsciously, psychologically prepare yourself for such pleasant events.

If we do so, as always, and you get what you always got (D. grinder)

If we have some kind of habitual sequence of actions, the result is often just programmed by a process. The world is developing through mistakes and random events, rather than through the usual. Fate throws us the possibility of a new choice only through random events. Accordingly, in order to change something in your life, often, is to give a chance to the so-called "case" and remain open to new possibilities. For example, to drive at least a few times a month to work on a different route, to visit places where you have never been, and meeting new people from new areas.

The unconscious will keep us from erroneous actions and decisions by any means

Our unconscious somehow knows what we need (S. jobs). And if we're going the wrong way, it gives us signs. Only need to be able to see them and understand. What is a token? This is an unlikely event that for some reason happened just now, when we make the decision. And the less we had a probability of occurrence, the more important this sign. For example, illness and injury often symbolize that we are not moving there. Go to about the order, follow other people's settings, instead of having to strive for his own happiness. And so our unconscious is trying to hold us back. But if we don't listen to him, unconscious in the end will try to off us at all.

We own only what really earned labor, time, knowledge, care

In fact, it is the continuation of the law of conservation of energy. If each of us will take for himself only what was actually earned, then there is harmony. Conversely, violation of this law will lead to a nonequilibrium state in the system and this system is any complex way will come to the balance, subtracting some and adding others.

And so if we take the good or resource that we do not own, the fate we will select them to restore the natural balance. Based on this rules, if we for some reason got more than decent, then, the universe somehow through us wants to distribute it to those who, in our opinion, needs. Our system values or environment is somehow more suitable for redistribution. And destiny then she will tell you exactly who need help. In fact, following this law, we are preventing ourselves from the negative events. Fate will be more favorable to us.

Very useful to completely abandon value statements and judgments, and especially to beware of giving advice to others

When we give advice to another person, he frequently had the illusion that we know better the correct answer. Although this is, of course, can not be so. The correct answer and the decision depends on so many subjective and unknown factors that we'll never be able to properly assess and understand the situation from the point of view of this man. On the other hand, it allows him to pass on to us the responsibility for their decisions. If we ask the Council, our task is simply to expand the visible list of possible options for such a person and help to find the pros and cons of each option. And then his life experience, logic and intuition already choose the best option from all possible for him.

The same mistake are value judgments. Providing evaluations, we program person. No wonder NLP value judgments relate to methods of hypnosis (the so-called Milton model language). In addition, evaluation is often able to destroy even a good relationship. So instead of telling someone "you're bad", is to learn how to talk about feelings that we experience as a reaction to the actions of another person.

Try to find the thread and get into it

In the world there are a large number of energy flows. And if they are to get, develop and achieve success much faster than others. Basically, these threads are formed around people with good energy, a positive Outlook on the world, happy with his life. Communicating with such people, we begin to emulate them. Once in a stream, you need to aim for the center. As an indicator of the center of the warm currents in the ocean water temperature is a indicator that you're moving in the right direction, is the appearance of everything around you more positive and successful people.

Our abilities are revealed when they are really needed

The way the human brain: revealed only to those abilities that a person need in a given time to accomplish personal goals and survival. Many people spend dozens of hours to learn English. But if they really don't need, it will quickly be forgotten, and time will be wasted. But if the language is really necessary and vital in demand, he developed easier and faster.

Our dreams come true no sooner than we are ready

If we do not receive what we dream of, so destiny protects us from this because we are not ready. For example, a machine that is not ready to contain and maintain. The question arises, then what to do? Be prepared and do what you can. And gradually to achieve such a state of things in which the desired outcome can not occur. In fact, we are talking about how to control what you can control: yourself, your actions, will, mind. And then we stop blaming the whole world for their failures and understand that all responsibility for events that occur in our lives, is ours. Happen to us and those events, which we prepared and which is worthy.

If you want to become someone, we should start acting like it already happened.

If we want to be somebody, it is useful to begin prepare yourself and your environment. This does not mean you have, for example, to buy expensive clothes and furnishings. This means you need to behave and think noble and nesuetlivoy. They say money come when internally people resigned to the fact that he has, when he has learned to be happy without them.

A man makes a woman

Nature has so arranged that a woman is both a launching pad for men and strap it to jump. On the one hand, it gives man the necessary energy, provides comfort and the conditions for recovery. On the other hand, the woman sets the bar for the development of men. If, for example, the previous man to woman was successful, she will transfer this success to his next partner. Conversely, after retiring from the alcoholic, it is often their behavior creates the conditions for the care of the new wife into alcoholism. The task of man to find a woman who'll give him a super-goal in life. And challenge women to find a man who will make it to the bar.

It is very useful to assume that there are things that just never need to think

There are ideas and events which don't need to think or know. For example, about how we die. Or who he/ she was prior to our meeting. Don't need to know how she is getting ready in the boudoir or what SMS and to whom he /she writes. All this will not bring benefits, but it can poison our lives and destroy relationships with loved ones.

Better not to know too much and to avoid becoming a witness to the negative actions of others

We forgive those who erred. But hate those who were witness to our mistakes. Therefore, it is better to avoid such situations.

If we don't manage our goals, they are controlled by someone else

Note – not nobody, but someone else. Worth thinking about – often we get the money for that come not to their goals and to the goals of those who pay us for the failure of their own goal.

Keep struggling and fighting for their freedom

There are three freedoms that cannot be allowed to restrict freedom of movement, freedom of communication and freedom of information. And if we want to make an important step in life, it is important to consider not restrict whether it is one of those freedoms. And if some of these freedoms are limited, it is worth considering, not too high a cost.

People like those about whom they care

The more effort, time, and feelings we put into the other person, the more we love it. So if you're in need of something, don't be afraid to ask about it. Useful to others to give the opportunity to take care of us, they will only be more who will love us.

It is important to respect the personal space of the other person

Thanks to the personal space – a kind of climate for development – we are developing faster than others. Better shape and maintain their individuality. And that our uniqueness is valuable to others. If we don't have this microcosm, the necessary set of conditions and resources, and to develop we'll be just like everyone else. So personal space is important to preserve and try did not to let. People who want to check out our phone to read your texts, listen to phone conversation, to get into the computer or bag – should just be avoided. Following the same law, show respect for the personal space of another person, interference with which can destroy relationships.

Rational egoism is necessary

If we do not respect yourself, fight for happiness, no one would do it.

Try to do good, then you start to like

It's very simple. The thing that we like has a chance to become successful for us. But if we want something we ourselves liked, just worth one to do it well. If this is not possible, should be done very quickly. So, for example, an unpleasant conversation better quickly to hold and forget about it than to delay and accumulate negative emotions about it.

Our unconscious will always choose the best option available

The more options a solution to the situation we have, the more faithful one is unconscious. Therefore, our task is to expand the number of possible options for comparison and selection. At the same time, you should consider if you artificially what-that option is not available, the brain is concentrated on it, presenting it to us as a special – and implicitly inspires it. In fact, we often seek is not so much of this variation as its right to its implementation. So having something that was not available before, it is useful again to completely reassess all the available solutions to the problem.  published 

Author: Alexey Sitnikov

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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