Denial and 4 stages of grief Bashny.Net

The reaction to the loss of significant object - specific mental process that develops according to its laws. The essence of his universal, unchanging and not depend on the fact that it has lost the subject. Grief is always evolving in the same way. It differs only in the duration and the intensity of its experiences, depending on the significance of the lost object and characteristics of the individual grieving person.

the five stages of grief

1."The negation of"

Accommodation grief occurs immediately after a person has learned about grief. Denial may be expressed in a simple peresprashivaniya. A person can again and again, as if did not hear or did not understand, clarify words and language, in which he received the bitter news. In fact, at the moment he is not hard of hearing, and doesn't want to believe that something has already happened. And sometimes, the experience is potentially so strong that the man he physically can not "keep away" and can just forget about the mountain until, until will not be ready to experience it. The decisions taken at this stage will be wrong as the person does not have an accurate understanding of the situation. As if the details didn't explain it — it distorts your perception of denial.



 

2. "Aggression".

People do not just believe — he actively questioned what he was told, directs aggression to the source of information. Constructive aggression can be directed at the cause of grief, but often in life a situation is not a feat — to change anything is not possible. This may lead to aggression to themselves or loved ones. The decisions taken at this stage can lead to negative consequences for a relationship, to bring damage to property and the human condition. In any case, they will be taken from a position of strength.

3. "Auction".

Man directs the energy of the second stage to "pay to grief". At this point, he can turn to God for any higher power, with the aim to conclude a deal — I will/will not do that and let it return to its previous state. Decisions taken at this point, it is different types of boards. People can pay to change their behavior, to make donations, may decide to devote time and energy to something associated with the cause of grief.

4. "Depression."

Emotional reactions obenaus, disturbed sleep and appetite, irritation, tears do not bring relief. The decisions taken at this stage can cause harm to yourself and others. They often have the character of care, reduction of any activity — the person give up. Decisions are made from a position of lack of strength.

5. "Adoption".

It was at this time a person may for the first time to cry, but these tears will bring relief. People thoughts returned to all good things that is because brought him grief. The situation that caused the grief, is now perceived as part of life — it has its beginning, development and conclusion. Is this sense of inner support, strength returns, and emotions across the spectrum, a person begins to think about the future. Only at the fifth stage people can make decisions about what to make conclusions, to change something and if so, how. At this point, it becomes wiser than usual.published

 

P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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