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The top 7 most bad advice lonely girl
I got married in 32 years, so are familiar with the entire Arsenal of the Soviets, who struggle every day to listen lonely girl "already over". Unfortunately, experience proves that if you give in to the entreaties of others and to follow these tips, it will lead to more frustration and the feeling of unhappiness, and not turn you into a blooming enviable bride with an endless series of fans. So, if once again hear something of the following – listen and do on his own.
Tip # 1. What are you all but one alone? Go out for a ride on the people
Many single women feel obliged to go to different public events, parties and Dating as a job. Today is the opening of the exhibition. Tomorrow is the bus tour to Pereslavl-Zalessky. Day after tomorrow – meeting Facebook users in cafes mayakovka.
No rest, never a moment of loneliness. After spending one night at home in the company of the e-book, blanket and Cup of tea, the girl already feels like a deserter: "of course! Today I didn't go out and no one met! Life passes by!"
Remember, the most important meeting, which should take place in your life – acquaintance with itself. Not finding yourself, you will not be able to meet their own happiness, simply because will not have ideas about what happiness is for you. Therefore, large parties, meetings and excursions is, of course, good, but find at least a few hours a week in order to stay with him alone.
Go to a café where the views and the interior is like you, not your company, family or young person. From the menu select exactly what you want to eat you – maybe surprising discovery will be the fact that you have some from other people desire. City Park, Museum, bike path – all great places to learn itself.
Tip # 2. The more time you spend with friends, the less chances to meet the right man
Of course, we all read women's magazines and watching talk shows for Housewives, but because from an early age learned by heart: friend is a rival who only think how to steal your emerging the gentleman, and acquainted with men, you need in places where men anywhere at a football match or in the bar at the Kursk station.
Really a feminine girlfriend, with whom you could engage in some traditionally female things is what is needed lonely girl in the first place. Friend is not the enemy, and the batteries that you are infected by positive female energy. No matter married or not, whether they have children, as long as they looked and felt attractive women and had a traditional women's interests.
Sexless creature in jeans and a baseball cap, indifferent to nail Polish, a model Shoe and talk from the series "why didn't he call" can be a good companion on a morning jog or a good Advisor in the kennel club, only the benefits that give of a friend, this creation will bring.
The good company of friends — this is, after which you'll walk down the street, feeling more woman than mother eve and you will discover so right hormonal that potential suitors will be willing to follow you to the edge of the world, forgetting everything.
But once saturated in the company of friends femininity — can be on the football or the conference on nuclear physics. See, what you men would react:)
Tip # 3. Feel lonely? Come, help those who are much worse, heavier than you: children-refuseniks, grandmothers in the nursing homes, the homeless, prisoners
To advise lonely girl "to go to someone to help the poor" is possible with the same success, and to recommend patients with influenza with a temperature of forty to do ten sit-UPS and fifteen push-UPS from the floor. After all, it's exercise, and exercise is known to healthy!
Only here as a person with the flu risks in case of excessive physical activity to earn heart complications, and lonely girl, who takes on himself the burden of pain of others already bent under the weight of their own emotional trauma, is at risk of becoming a victim of severe psychological burnout, and then she threatens to either already own a physical illness or a psychiatric hospital.
Help is not something that automatically can any from birth. To help another and not destroy itself — an art that the years teach future psychologists, teachers or doctors. And even among experts not everyone is able to keep the own personality — someone who dissolves in patients and burns, and someone includes a protective cold cynicism.
Want to help others — stand to start very happy. Then you can bring them some benefit.
Tip # 4. You simply don't know how to dress and wear make-up! Come on, come on, let's go shopping, and then look at the beauty salon
Go back to point 2, take a pencil and with it, once and for all expunged from the list of friends everyone who says so. To give such advice — means to humiliate human dignity. Any normal girl by the age of 14 knows what it is the color of the clothes, what eye shadow and what form of hairstyle. And no later than the final evening everyone knew how to behave to please the young man.
If a girl, knowing full well that definitely will not appeal to the man in this horrible yellow shirt or that shapeless gray robe, still stubbornly prefers to choose the same yellow shirt, grey hoodie and repulsive manners to behave, so "like a man" at this stage of life is not included in her plans.
She made a choice in favor of solitude, and that her choice should be respected. If she complains of loneliness or do you think that in my solitude she's unhappy, then directly and ask: "Why did you decide to living alone and avoiding men?" And not: "Well, again you're in a baggy brown ankle-length skirt and a gray blouse, buttoned up, why hide your beauty, beads would be better wearing and lips make up".
Tip # 5. Peter – such a wonderful young man, and, most importantly, unmarried. You will certainly need to meet. Come to me on his birthday, he will be there too
Lonely girl lonely not because still have not met the good ol ' Pete. She was lonely because by its own internal reasons, is not ready to meet with Peter, nor the relationship with anyone.
A fateful meeting occurs when a person is ready for it. And arrange visits when they are not asking — this is, again, the humiliation of human dignity. Similar "care" not at all better from her delicately refuse.
Tip # 6. Roddy child for themselves. In a more Orthodox option – adopt
This phrase periodically hears every single girl from the age of 23, as she grows older, the advice we hear all the more insistently.
Women who consciously made the decision to become a single mother, in an Orthodox environment is usually sympathetic: she's not looking for pleasures in life, and the mother of heroism! It is easy to meet the priest who will easily let go of such a sin, as the relationship with a man outside marriage to conceive a child.
But let's be honest: to have a baby "just", "just for myself" impossible. The child will always be half of his father's, and from it can not escape, unless, of course, your child will be conceived naturally and not created by cloning cells of only one mother.
For one short-lived sin — sexual relationship with a man who is married to another or not even married, but you are definitely not going to get married — followed by a whole web of other sins that you may not unravel until death.
What do you talk about single mothers, when the child begins to ask about his father? Something from the series: "He was a military pilot and ended up saving in a dogfight of his comrades." But children, even the youngest, feel keenly the lies and do not know how to forgive her. Resentment at her mother for this deception they can Harbor for a lifetime.
In addition, the child has a right to know his father. He has every right to his name, attention, property inheritance, communication is not only father, but also with all the relatives from his side — grandmother, grandfather, half-brothers and sisters. To deprive a child the right to know his father — hence, very much sin lies.
And if you allow to learn? Then the single mother will be in a paradoxical situation — she didn't want to enter into a permanent relationship with the men and fled the marriage. But in the end, instead of the traditional legal marriage, where everything is clear and simple: here father, here mother, children — it becomes part of the system is much more conflicted and confusing, which will be forced to communicate and build some sort of relationship with a man who is a father but not a husband jealous of her and her child other women and other children, possibly, are bad parents, the child's father and other relatives.
God is not accidentally placed this order of things that you need to learn how to be a wife and then a mother. Trying to become a mother, with no experience of marriage is like that once in eighth grade, not finishing third.
As for the adoption of the child by a single mom, look at paragraph 3. Before you try to help someone poor, you need to cure their emotional trauma and become happy. The Union of the two fatalities is not a guarantee of happiness — on the contrary, it would be unfortunate in the square.
Tip # 7. But how can you complain! Not the wrath of God. Compared to the great-grandmother who survived the siege of Leningrad, your life is just Golden
Very unpleasant rhetorical device evil people who hide their cruelty and emotional callousness under the guise of piety and virtue. Saying that, they are good you definitely do not want.
They try to a bouquet of your trauma and experiences added another "flower" — guilt. To answer this something from the series: "And you, Marya Ivanovna, as in your height of spiritual life cookie chew is not a shame, while children in Somalia are dying of hunger?"
Having said that, many question arises: where is my lonely life a place for heroism? Because this article is not offered or pray all night, making a thousand bows, or to go to a hospice for children dying of cancer. Only fun and entertainment — friends, walks, cafes...
A feat that is honest to admit: Yes, I have a problem. I did not get the fact that the other comes naturally and easily to fall in love, build relationships, marry, bear and rear children.
Your ascetic feat — to understand the reasons of your loneliness and find a way out. To work on that in the world became one single woman and one less happy — more. Believe me, when you will solve this problem and become a family woman, the question of the shackle itself will disappear.published
Author: Olga Gumanova
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
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Tip # 1. What are you all but one alone? Go out for a ride on the people
Many single women feel obliged to go to different public events, parties and Dating as a job. Today is the opening of the exhibition. Tomorrow is the bus tour to Pereslavl-Zalessky. Day after tomorrow – meeting Facebook users in cafes mayakovka.
No rest, never a moment of loneliness. After spending one night at home in the company of the e-book, blanket and Cup of tea, the girl already feels like a deserter: "of course! Today I didn't go out and no one met! Life passes by!"
Remember, the most important meeting, which should take place in your life – acquaintance with itself. Not finding yourself, you will not be able to meet their own happiness, simply because will not have ideas about what happiness is for you. Therefore, large parties, meetings and excursions is, of course, good, but find at least a few hours a week in order to stay with him alone.
Go to a café where the views and the interior is like you, not your company, family or young person. From the menu select exactly what you want to eat you – maybe surprising discovery will be the fact that you have some from other people desire. City Park, Museum, bike path – all great places to learn itself.
Tip # 2. The more time you spend with friends, the less chances to meet the right man
Of course, we all read women's magazines and watching talk shows for Housewives, but because from an early age learned by heart: friend is a rival who only think how to steal your emerging the gentleman, and acquainted with men, you need in places where men anywhere at a football match or in the bar at the Kursk station.
Really a feminine girlfriend, with whom you could engage in some traditionally female things is what is needed lonely girl in the first place. Friend is not the enemy, and the batteries that you are infected by positive female energy. No matter married or not, whether they have children, as long as they looked and felt attractive women and had a traditional women's interests.
Sexless creature in jeans and a baseball cap, indifferent to nail Polish, a model Shoe and talk from the series "why didn't he call" can be a good companion on a morning jog or a good Advisor in the kennel club, only the benefits that give of a friend, this creation will bring.
The good company of friends — this is, after which you'll walk down the street, feeling more woman than mother eve and you will discover so right hormonal that potential suitors will be willing to follow you to the edge of the world, forgetting everything.
But once saturated in the company of friends femininity — can be on the football or the conference on nuclear physics. See, what you men would react:)
Tip # 3. Feel lonely? Come, help those who are much worse, heavier than you: children-refuseniks, grandmothers in the nursing homes, the homeless, prisoners
To advise lonely girl "to go to someone to help the poor" is possible with the same success, and to recommend patients with influenza with a temperature of forty to do ten sit-UPS and fifteen push-UPS from the floor. After all, it's exercise, and exercise is known to healthy!
Only here as a person with the flu risks in case of excessive physical activity to earn heart complications, and lonely girl, who takes on himself the burden of pain of others already bent under the weight of their own emotional trauma, is at risk of becoming a victim of severe psychological burnout, and then she threatens to either already own a physical illness or a psychiatric hospital.
Help is not something that automatically can any from birth. To help another and not destroy itself — an art that the years teach future psychologists, teachers or doctors. And even among experts not everyone is able to keep the own personality — someone who dissolves in patients and burns, and someone includes a protective cold cynicism.
Want to help others — stand to start very happy. Then you can bring them some benefit.
Tip # 4. You simply don't know how to dress and wear make-up! Come on, come on, let's go shopping, and then look at the beauty salon
Go back to point 2, take a pencil and with it, once and for all expunged from the list of friends everyone who says so. To give such advice — means to humiliate human dignity. Any normal girl by the age of 14 knows what it is the color of the clothes, what eye shadow and what form of hairstyle. And no later than the final evening everyone knew how to behave to please the young man.
If a girl, knowing full well that definitely will not appeal to the man in this horrible yellow shirt or that shapeless gray robe, still stubbornly prefers to choose the same yellow shirt, grey hoodie and repulsive manners to behave, so "like a man" at this stage of life is not included in her plans.
She made a choice in favor of solitude, and that her choice should be respected. If she complains of loneliness or do you think that in my solitude she's unhappy, then directly and ask: "Why did you decide to living alone and avoiding men?" And not: "Well, again you're in a baggy brown ankle-length skirt and a gray blouse, buttoned up, why hide your beauty, beads would be better wearing and lips make up".
Tip # 5. Peter – such a wonderful young man, and, most importantly, unmarried. You will certainly need to meet. Come to me on his birthday, he will be there too
Lonely girl lonely not because still have not met the good ol ' Pete. She was lonely because by its own internal reasons, is not ready to meet with Peter, nor the relationship with anyone.
A fateful meeting occurs when a person is ready for it. And arrange visits when they are not asking — this is, again, the humiliation of human dignity. Similar "care" not at all better from her delicately refuse.
Tip # 6. Roddy child for themselves. In a more Orthodox option – adopt
This phrase periodically hears every single girl from the age of 23, as she grows older, the advice we hear all the more insistently.
Women who consciously made the decision to become a single mother, in an Orthodox environment is usually sympathetic: she's not looking for pleasures in life, and the mother of heroism! It is easy to meet the priest who will easily let go of such a sin, as the relationship with a man outside marriage to conceive a child.
But let's be honest: to have a baby "just", "just for myself" impossible. The child will always be half of his father's, and from it can not escape, unless, of course, your child will be conceived naturally and not created by cloning cells of only one mother.
For one short-lived sin — sexual relationship with a man who is married to another or not even married, but you are definitely not going to get married — followed by a whole web of other sins that you may not unravel until death.
What do you talk about single mothers, when the child begins to ask about his father? Something from the series: "He was a military pilot and ended up saving in a dogfight of his comrades." But children, even the youngest, feel keenly the lies and do not know how to forgive her. Resentment at her mother for this deception they can Harbor for a lifetime.
In addition, the child has a right to know his father. He has every right to his name, attention, property inheritance, communication is not only father, but also with all the relatives from his side — grandmother, grandfather, half-brothers and sisters. To deprive a child the right to know his father — hence, very much sin lies.
And if you allow to learn? Then the single mother will be in a paradoxical situation — she didn't want to enter into a permanent relationship with the men and fled the marriage. But in the end, instead of the traditional legal marriage, where everything is clear and simple: here father, here mother, children — it becomes part of the system is much more conflicted and confusing, which will be forced to communicate and build some sort of relationship with a man who is a father but not a husband jealous of her and her child other women and other children, possibly, are bad parents, the child's father and other relatives.
God is not accidentally placed this order of things that you need to learn how to be a wife and then a mother. Trying to become a mother, with no experience of marriage is like that once in eighth grade, not finishing third.
As for the adoption of the child by a single mom, look at paragraph 3. Before you try to help someone poor, you need to cure their emotional trauma and become happy. The Union of the two fatalities is not a guarantee of happiness — on the contrary, it would be unfortunate in the square.
Tip # 7. But how can you complain! Not the wrath of God. Compared to the great-grandmother who survived the siege of Leningrad, your life is just Golden
Very unpleasant rhetorical device evil people who hide their cruelty and emotional callousness under the guise of piety and virtue. Saying that, they are good you definitely do not want.
They try to a bouquet of your trauma and experiences added another "flower" — guilt. To answer this something from the series: "And you, Marya Ivanovna, as in your height of spiritual life cookie chew is not a shame, while children in Somalia are dying of hunger?"
Having said that, many question arises: where is my lonely life a place for heroism? Because this article is not offered or pray all night, making a thousand bows, or to go to a hospice for children dying of cancer. Only fun and entertainment — friends, walks, cafes...
A feat that is honest to admit: Yes, I have a problem. I did not get the fact that the other comes naturally and easily to fall in love, build relationships, marry, bear and rear children.
Your ascetic feat — to understand the reasons of your loneliness and find a way out. To work on that in the world became one single woman and one less happy — more. Believe me, when you will solve this problem and become a family woman, the question of the shackle itself will disappear.published
Author: Olga Gumanova
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Join us in Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: www.matrony.ru/top-list-samyx-vrednyx-sovetov-odinokoj-devushke/
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