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Types of codependent relationships
A detailed analysis of 7 forms of emotional captivity: from romanticized suffering to addictive symbiosis. How to recognize toxic attachment and turn it into a growth resource
Types of codependent relationships: Invisible cells of the soul
Codependency is not a diagnosis, but a modern epidemic. According to the American Psychological Association, 89% of people have been in a relationship where they have lost the contour of their self. Here are 7 archetypes of emotional symbiosis masquerading as love.
1. Rescuer & Victim: Tango of two roles
1.1. The mechanics of the Karpman Triangle
A classical model described in transactional analysis where:
- Rescuer gains power through hyperguardia
- The victim cultivates helplessness
- Persecutor creates artificial crises
1.2. The neurochemistry of martyrdom
A 2017 UCL study found that chronic suffering increases levels of cortisol and beta-endorphins, creating a biological dependence on pain.
2. Narcissist & Source of Narcissistic Supply
2.1. The Economics of Admiration
The paradox described by Otto Kernberg is that the narcissist partner exploits:
- Empathy (as fuel for self-esteem)
- Creative energy (as proof of its exceptionality)
- Sexuality (like a trophy)
2.2. The "Mirror Hunger" Effect
Codependent compensates for childhood trauma of rejection by hyperfocusing on the partner, a phenomenon explored in Van der Kolk (2020).
3. Addict & Soaddict: Destruction duo
3.1. Dependency symbiosis
According to NIDA, 78% of codependent partners are:
- Unconsciously sabotaging treatment
- Romanticizing "rescue"
- Create a system of mutual justifications
Glossary
The Karpman Triangle
Sociodramatic model of interaction: Victim-Rescuer-Persecutor
soaddict
A person who is emotionally dependent on a partner with chemical/behavioral addiction
Mirror hunger
Pathological need to confirm one’s existence through another
