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How do you know from your correspondence that you are communicating with Narcissus?
Introduction
Internet communication has become an integral part of our lives, but how do we know that behind beautiful words lies a person with narcissistic traits? Narcissists have special patterns of behavior that can be recognized even in text messages.
Key signs of a narcissist in correspondence
1. Effective start, but lack of depth
They shower you with compliments, quickly create the illusion of a special connection. Their messages, however, are superficial, and topics of communication often revolve around themselves.
2. Inconstancy and sudden changes in mood
At first, they show excessive involvement, and then suddenly disappear or become cold. Such sharp transitions are part of their control tactics.
3. Gaslighting and impairment
If you point out inconsistencies in their words, they may accuse you of “misunderstanding” or exaggeration. This is one of the gaslighting techniques.
4. Hidden demands and manipulations
They often force you to prove your loyalty by creating situations where you feel guilty or obligated.
5. They love drama.
Narcissists create conflicts and provoke emotional swings to stay in the spotlight.
How do you protect yourself?
- Do not rush to disclose personal information.
- Watch their reaction to borders. A healthy person respects no, a narcissist does not.
- Apply the gray stone method: Minimize your emotional response if you want to quit.
Knowing the signs of narcissism helps not to fall into the trap of manipulation. If you find such traits in the interlocutor, it is important to protect yourself and your emotional resources in time.
Glossary
- gaslighting Psychological manipulation, causing the victim to doubt their memories and the adequacy of perception.
- Graystone method A technique in which a person becomes emotionally neutral, without giving the narcissist nourishment for manipulation.
