How to raise a confident adult from a child

Many parents, without thinking, form in their children uncertainty and complexes.
They affect their entire future life. Adults can accidentally
Belittle the merits of the child, put him in front of excessive demands and wait for a quick
"Result" without taking into account the real abilities of the child. As a result, they grow in front of us.
timid people who find it difficult to defend their point of view, feel inner strength
And get what you want. But it's not a sentence. If you notice in time,
that the child is experiencing difficulties with self-esteem, and adjust their behavior,
He can become a confident and balanced adult, not afraid of new challenges.




Where does uncertainty come from?
Before we talk about how to raise a confident person, it is worth understanding the reasons,
It creates doubt in the child. Key factors:

• Criticism without measure. When parents constantly point out mistakes,
  Without noting success, the child forms a feeling of “I am good for nothing.”
• Comparison with others. Like, “Look how Masha learns and you....”
  They make the child feel that he does not meet other people’s standards.
• No personal boundaries. When a child’s desires and feelings are ignored,
  He has the impression that his thoughts are “not that important.”
• Hyperprotection or total control. Children need independence.
  To try things out. Overcare prevents you from developing independence
  And confidence in your decisions.

Five Principles for Building Self-Confidence

1. Recognition of the uniqueness of the child.
   Every child is unique: someone shows a talent for drawing early.
   And someone from childhood is great with technology. If you notice a child's inclination to something,
   Try to develop it: offer books, courses,
   Praise him for any step in the direction of his interests.
   This will convince the child that his abilities are necessary and important.
   
2. Don’t be afraid of “positive criticism.”
   It’s okay to point out mistakes, but do it correctly:
   “I think you can do better, do you want to try it together?”
   This phrase sounds supportive and does not offend.
   
3. Teach you how to make decisions.
   Let the child choose the clothes for a walk or the dish he wants for lunch.
   Expand your responsibility with age:
   For example, allow him to budget for pocket expenses or participate in family purchases.
   Self-confidence arises when a child sees that his decisions matter.
   
4. Encourage curiosity and research.
   It is important for children to feel that the world is open and accessible.
   Let him experiment, take things apart, ask a thousand questions.
   Do not cut off his interest with the eternal “do not touch”, “do not climb”.
   Explain the safety rules, but give room for experimentation.
   
5. Be an example.
   Children are very sensitive to adult behavior.
   If you are afraid of taking risks, you are constantly doubting and saying that “nothing will work.”
   It will be difficult for the child to form a positive image of a confident person.
   Try to show restraint and a constructive attitude to failure.
   Even from defeat, lessons can be learned.
   

Practical advice for different ages
Of course, the approach to strengthening a child’s self-esteem should change depending on their age.
Below are some tips that will help to adjust education at each stage.

• Preschoolers (3-6 years old).
  Praise for any success, but don’t overestimate it.
  Let the child have a private space in the house where he can keep his treasures.
  (Drawings, crafts) without fear of being thrown away.
  Read together stories in which heroes face difficulties,
  But they win through courage and self-confidence.
  
• Junior students (7-10 years).
  Involve the child in the planning of the day, show interest in his school affairs,
  But don't control every little thing. If he failed the test,
  Don’t make tragedies, discuss what can be improved.
  Offer joint training next time.
  
• Teenagers (11-16 years old).
  At this age, children are particularly vulnerable to criticism.
  Try to listen and respect his point of view, even if you disagree with it.
  Give him more freedom - but also remind him of the consequences.
  Any domestic or financial setbacks will help develop problem-solving skills
  It will increase personal responsibility.
  

Don't forget your feelings.
The important point is the realization that it is impossible to raise a confident child.
If you feel unfulfilled or constantly worry about small things.
Sometimes parental anxiety goes to children.
Don’t be afraid to consult a psychologist or seek support from friends.
If you feel like you can't handle it. How harmoniously you feel about your life,
It depends on the emotional state and self-esteem of your child.


The secret of raising a confident child is not in strict rules, but in a delicate balance.
between love, trust and sound discipline. Respect your choices, support your endeavors.
Let's be able to stumble and learn from mistakes.
Then in the future, he will be able to defend his own boundaries, be creative and independent.
They are not afraid to set ambitious goals.
After all, such a person – confident in himself – is able to truly realize his potential in adulthood.