Mom insisted on meeting with the groom's parents, and now I doubt there will be a wedding.

Sigma Man: Who is this enigmatic knight that modern pop culture is crazy about? Willful, strong, independent and unlike others. He hides in the shadows and deliberately avoids the honors that alpha males dream of. Find out what is the new layer of sigma men and why they are so attractive.



A person tends to categorize everything that surrounds him. And myself included! You’ve probably heard of dividing people (most often men) into alpha and omega. As in nature, at the top of the social hierarchy reign alpha males - the favorites of women, rich and energetic leaders. Close the chain weak and unviable rogue omega.

In 2010, American political blogger Theodore Robert Beale coined another term, sigma. A person of this “species” is not inferior to alphas in attractiveness, success and strength. But he doesn't care much about social acceptance. Such lone wolves choose to live for their pleasure against social norms. Do not confuse sigma with sociopaths: they are just as motivated and bright, but more restrained and not aggressive.



For clarity, we turn to the cinema. Bruce Willis in Die Hard, James Bond, Thor are natural alpha males. Jim Carrey's character in The Mask (as a failed banker) is a typical omega. And John Wick and Tom Shelby from Peaky Blinders are those lone wolves, sigma. Brilliant, mysterious, strong and attractive.

Next in the story of one of our subscribers, you will see how sigma behave in its natural habitat. What difficulties can their lovers face?



The son-in-law who did not pass the test My mother and I in life had a hard time. When I was 14, my father left the family. But not literally: for another two long years we tolerated him in the company of a new passion under one roof.

At one point, the mother still gathered pride in her fist and threw the couple out of their apartment. But we had another question. I had to study and prepare for admission, and the parent – to find a job.

My mother decided to send me to my sister’s village for a while, and she went to work in Spain. I rented out our two-piece in town. With this money, my mother owed his father for his share in the apartment.



Thanks to Mommy and her character, we have a chance for a cloudless and comfortable future. She earned a lot of money and saved me a lot of money. By the age of 23, I had my own one-year-old, taken by my mother on a mortgage.

I met my future fiancé Alyosha at work. Six months later, he proposed to me. And I said yes. You can't find men like that in the daytime. Calm, determined, independent. With him I felt brave and confident in the future. But after a "memorable" dinner with his parents and my mother, I wondered if there would be a wedding.

Mother specially rushed from abroad to get acquainted with future matchmakers. I wanted to know more about my loved one’s parents. At a joint dinner, the mother without hesitation began the interrogation.



All night she tortured the whole family of Alexei. How, where and what they live. They have plans for the future. I turned from embarrassment to the roots of my hair. I did not expect such indiscretion from my mother.

After the meeting at home, the parent voiced her verdict to me: she categorically does not want to see Lesha in her sons-in-law.

Sigma Man: Care or Content? For the past 6 years, Alexey’s parents have been renting an apartment. Lesha is a late child. His parents are almost 60, while my mother is only 48.

Matchmakers never had their own home. They lived with their mother-in-law and their mother-in-law. When they were gone, they sold both apartments and divided the money between Lesha and his sister. And now they live in a rented one.

My son is now fully supporting them. Pays rent, buys groceries and gives money for a living. Parents pray for Alyosha and cannot rejoice.



But my mother is not happy with this state of affairs. And the root of all troubles lies in the mother and father of the beloved. “You won’t have a separate family, daughter. He will give his whole life for his parents. They won't get off him. What will you live on when you go on maternity leave? Before you know it, Alex will bring them to your apartment.

Maybe Mom's right about something. But I'm about 30, and I want to get married. You don't have to choose. Besides, I'm sure I can take control of the situation and shift Alyosha's attention to our family. He's stubborn and on his mind. He loves his family very much. But not at the expense of our relationship!



And do you think that sigma can become a worthy party for the main character? Have you ever met such a man in your life? Share your opinion in the comments.