Why society is still negative about women who give birth to their first child after 35

In modern society, young mothers are perceived ambiguously. If a woman firstbornAfter twenty years, this is considered normal. About seventeen - already mowing eyes, whispering. And what about when a woman decides on the feat of birth in the region of forty years? Or even forty?



In our time, when technology and medicine are developing in leaps and bounds, it would seem that there should be nothing strange in this. However, in the post-Soviet space, society is not yet ready for this. This is indicated by multiple facts, popular mood, state relations. Even MPs and officials advise to resolve this issue as soon as possible, because the country needs young people and workers.

But why, for example, in Europe, everything is different? There, parents are getting closer to the age of 35, when there are no problems with work and housing and it is no longer so difficult to care for a child financially. At this age, people know what they want from life, from the second half and boldly go to it, without worrying about their future.



Peels This model is clear and understandable. It also has its pros and cons. On the one hand, living in your home without worrying about the bills that came to the post office is good. When you are confident in your partner and know that you can always rely on him. Do not argue about everyday habits and sudden “immature” misunderstandings.

But, on the other hand, such a family loses a special bond. It is difficult for a son-schooler to explain his experiences to his father, who is long over forty. After all, in his understanding, even the child must be independent. There's nothing to snuggle with. And the child is strange that his father has a full head of gray hair, what to talk about video games or accounting?



Everyone knows that in the West parents send their children “on free bread” early. Living in a separate apartment, communicating with strangers. When can I find time to get closer to my parents? It turns out a vicious circle: young people need to learn to provide for themselves faster. There is no time left for serious relationships. So, a new family arises, too, only after a long time.

How are we? There is only one answer to this question: oppositely. Early pregnancy is not so common, especially in large cities. However, it does exist. And there's nothing wrong with that. Except when it's accompanied by family drama, a young father leaving the family and things like that. Then it's a problem.

In general, then and then you can see young mothers with strollers, leisurely walking in the yards of high-rise buildings or parks, squares. But wait. Do our young people really have the opportunity to support their families? Most of the time, no. The truth of life and nothing can be done about it.



How many cases do we know of when a young family is forced to live in a small apartment with their mother-in-law or mother-in-law? The sea. And this arrangement of people does not bring together, only pushes away from each other. Tired of all routine provokes quarrels, tears and even the breakup of the family. This should be understood, because it is good to live a friendly family somewhere in the south of Italy, in a large well-groomed house. But certainly not in the sighted Khrushchev sleeping area.

Even those young parents who live separately, often have to give the child or even children to the care of grandparents. At first glance, it looks cute. But do not forget that older people also have their own interests and even they do not want to spend all their free time on grandchildren. And the child, it turns out, is brought up by pensioners, with a young mother and father.



I gave birth to my first child: what happened? What does that mean in the end? Children grow up, no one deals with them, because parents are still young, strive to catch up, build a career or at least just try to earn a living. Financial resources do not provide the younger generation with a normal education. Hence, again, low-paid work, dependency on parents.

Here is the answer to the question of why some men live with mom and dad in 30 years. There's just no other way. Women get married, have children... They just live in someone else's house. In fact, the same in the house, but only at other parents.



Of course, we can say that there are other examples. Absolutely opposite situations. But statistically, this is exactly the case. Accordingly, the theme of the birth of the first child is still relevant. How to act in this case is only a matter of the individual family. No one has the right to tell them. There is a choice, but clearly there is no good or bad. What happens in the future, in any case, only life will tell.