I do not want to forgive my 17-year-old son another rudeness and disrespect.

“My child is rude to me at every opportunity. My son is 17 years old and we live together. Vova is studying at the university on a paid department, and very poorly studying. I am worried that he will be expelled, says Larissa. But the woman is more concerned about her son's behavior at home. Every day the baby snaps and screams at his mother. Is it possible to deal with unacceptable behavior alone? And why do teenagers behave so rudely towards their parents?



“He’s 17 years old, he’s a grown man.” After my divorce, my son stayed with me. I deal with him as an equal, trying to negotiate everything peacefully. But every time I make a remark to him, he dares me. He says things that make my ears turn into a tube. I am so out of reality at this moment that I forget the subject of our argument.

My son says I'm too tender. And when I ask him to communicate with me in a human way, he says that I value myself too much. Kids are very smart now. I can't even threaten anything. A week ago I told him that I would no longer give him pocket money and cook for him, so Vova said that he would complain to the juvenile police. Then he shouted, “Come on, pack your bags and get out of here.”



Since childhood, I have given him as much time as I can. We read books together, I took him to different sections, try to dress him decently. When he has any difficulties, I am always happy to help, I talk to him patiently, I never raise my voice. But now communication with me is not interesting. He misses all my requests and comments, sits on his phone, then at the computer, and so on indefinitely.



I'm at a dead end, I don't know what to do or how to bring this teenager to his senses. He recently lost his pocket money to cards again and demanded that I give him more pocket money. My budget is also not unlimited, I pay tutors, clothes, food, housing, his university. No thanks at all”.



It is very difficult for parents to keep a balance in the upbringing of children. How do you make your child’s life better than it was, and not spoil your child? The older generation has suffered many hardships. And now, many moms and dads favor children with material things instead of establishing friendships with their children.

It is obvious that Larissa since the birth of his son took care of him every second. Vova is not used to taking responsibility for his actions, he turned into a demanding teenager, whom everyone owes. A child who has been cared for for 17 years is not going to change, most likely he will not hurry to look for his home or work. Because my mom gives me pocket money, despite being rude.



Aggressive behavior among adolescents is not uncommon, but not the norm. Yes, in adolescence, children actively begin to show emotions. Audacious behavior, aggression and rudeness are signs of separation of a teenager from his parents. That is, this is how a teenager declares himself, and the confrontation between parents and children begins. It is important to give a teenager the opportunity to express emotions at home.



The fact that a child is angry, speaks rudely or shouts, means that what is happening in psychology is the so-called separation. It’s natural that a child will not always live with their parents and ask for advice. It is worse if the teenager behaves too quietly. When a teenager reacts too aggressively in an argument, parents need to endure this process of becoming a person. But it is not worth looking through your fingers at rudeness.



It is unacceptable to listen to insults. Let the child know that he cannot behave like this with his parents. The audacity must be stopped. At the same time, you can not raise your voice, so the parent succumbs to provocation and loses authority. Even if a teenager freely expresses his emotions at home, he has no right to insult his parents. Respect for elders should be brought up from the diapers. Sometimes you have to ask a psychologist for help, and this is the best solution. What do you think?