Why you can’t go to the house alone

When it comes to something that is difficult to explain to a person, they go superstition. Funeral, wake and cemetery - an expanse for "experts" from the people. What does not frighten the mourners! And they either out of ignorance, or because “it is so accepted”, unconditionally submit to unnecessary customs and willingly believe in prejudices.



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Remembrance of the Dead Editorial "Site" I learned what to do and what not to do in the grave. We'll tell you, How to behave in the cemeteryTo avoid causing trouble. It turns out that there is also a need to observe etiquette.

Sometimes such prohibitions seem absurd. And people, being in a state of deep emotional shock, perform everything unconditionally, without trying to understand the meaning of these actions. Many believe that graveyard sign You always have to do it, otherwise you will be in a lot of trouble.



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Let’s see what they are, the rules of visiting the cemetery from the point of view of the people’s “experts”.

What not to do in the cemetery
  1. At the cemetery you need to enter only through the side entrance (through the central - only at the funeral) with open hands. If you have a bag in your hand, you can’t hold it in your hand. It is necessary to hang the hand bag so that all fingers and hands are open.
  2. You cannot turn around leaving the cemetery.

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  3. You cannot enter the cemetery after sunset.
  4. You don’t go empty-handed to the dead, you should always bring food and drink for the deceased.
  5. Leaving the cemetery, throw a ransom on the grave - a few coins.
  6. If something falls in the cemetery, you can not pick up the thing - leave it to the dead.



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  7. Children and pregnant Attend funerals and resting places even on parent’s day. The souls of the dead can take the soul of the infant with them, or another soul will settle in it.
  8. Do not complain about life near the grave, or the dead will take you to his place.
  9. It is unacceptable to come to the church in open sandals or high-heeled shoes.

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  10. Trip to the cemetery is not good. Even worse, fall.
  11. It is impossible to talk about successes and achievements in life in the cemetery, so that everything is not left here.
  12. Leave the cemetery the way you came.
  13. After visiting the cemetery, you need to throw away your shoes so as not to bring the cemetery land into the house, and warm your feet over the fire of a church candle or in hot water.



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  14. After the funeral No one is allowed to visit, you will bring death to the house you entered.
  15. Cats or other graveyard - souls of the dead. The black cat is a witch or the rushing soul of a sinner, and the white cat is the soul of the righteous.



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As you can see, most of these tips are prejudices that the Orthodox Church does not support. Most of them can be explained, and the rest is better not to believe. Think twice before you do that.

Yes, pregnant women are better off not going to the cemetery not because dark forces will affect the baby, but because it is an added stress. In fact, it all depends on the decision of the future mother. If she does not want to experience unnecessary excitement, it is better to go to church, pray and order. funeral.



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But if the grief happened a long time ago and the woman is sure that her psyche is able to withstand such a shock, then, being pregnant, you can visit the cemetery. You can always.

Every Christian should learn to separate the grain from the chaff. Yes, in burial places, you have to be reverent. Laughter, jokes and everyday conversations are not recommended. In such a place it is better not to take pictures.

It does not matter from which side of the cemetery to approach the grave, but definitely do not climb through the fence. Walking on other people's tombstones is unethical. Yes, and at night there is a risk of falling, hitting a tombstone. And the ban on visiting the cemetery alone concerns overly emotional people. They forget about themselves, which is not good either.





You can not collect and eat berries in the cemetery, wash and drink water from a local source. For obvious reasons, a spring beating from under the ground, in which decaying remains are located, is the source of many infections. Therefore, it is better to clean the grave with gloves and then wash your hands, shoes and tools with water.

In the cemetery, the deceased is remembered with prayer. Do not say greetings or invented phrases, and especially spells. Do not carry lush plastic wreaths and flowers to the graves: everything artificial is a symbol of lies. In addition, such products quickly lose their appearance, their disposal harms living people and the environment.



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At the grave you can. commemorate, handing out kutya. Food and alcohol are prohibited. Do not leave food at the tombstones (especially consecrated), it is better to distribute them to those in need.

You can visit the cemetery any day. There are no strict bans on this. But church refrain from visiting on days when the vowel funeral prayer is not performed: on all Sundays, days of the Twelveth feasts, on Svyatka (from January 7 to January 20 inclusive), on Easter and throughout the Bright Week, as well as on Holy Week on Thursday, Friday and Saturday.





The grave of the deceased must be kept clean. It does not matter what size the monument is or what color the fence is. Let this place be well-groomed and neat, without weeds and excess vegetation. After visiting the cemetery, clean up with you, and take the garbage out to a specially designated place.

Remember the main rule: fear the living, not the dead. Come to the cemetery with a clean mind and do no harm to anyone. Before you go to the grave to your mother or father, go to church and present a note with the name of the deceased for commemoration in the temple. Read at home anytime. prayerShe'll always calm you down.



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Remember, all those who have died in Christ are alive, all is well with them. The eternally living human soul does not need frequent trips to the cemetery. The dead need constant prayer because they cannot do it themselves.

Have you ever met someone like that? Do you think you can, and What not to do in the cemetery?