I do not communicate with my mother because she did not fulfill her parental duties to me, my conscience does not torment me.

How important is the support of a child by parents in the modern world and is it worth resenting a strict mother for lessons of independence?

On the one hand, tough conditions make a person make more efforts to get what he wants. But on the other hand, who else can hope for a child in case of failure, but for a mother and father?

The heroine of our modern history is sure that the duties of parents include not only the upbringing of the child, but also providing him with a good education. What do you think about that?

Recently, I decided to stop communicating with my mother. I don’t feel shame, guilt, or annoyance. I am convinced that she has not fully fulfilled her parenting duties. Therefore, I do not consider myself obliged to deal with the state of her affairs. Especially to take care of her in old age.



In high school, I learned that no one is going to pay for my further studies at the university. My mother said she had done enough for me. I am now an adult and can solve my own problems. "Do you want to go to university? “Find a job,” our conversation ended.



Well, I followed my mother's advice. While all my classmates took the entrance exams carelessly and prepared for the tumultuous university life, I worked tirelessly to save money for my studies.

And as a result, of course, she got her way. But the resentment against my mother was so deep inside that I never wanted to see her again or call her. And yet we kept in touch until the latest events.





The other day, I learned that the same story repeats itself with my younger brother, Bones. I learned this not from him, but from my mother. She called herself and hoped that I would support her in her quest to make Costa more independent. But I certainly wasn't going to do that.



It was the last straw in the cup of my patience. This situation made me so angry that I immediately told my mother everything I thought about it. Everything that had accumulated in the soul for several years immediately took a verbal form and poured into our conversation.

I can’t hide it, in some words I was too harsh. My mother, of course, was offended by me. And now the desire to stop communication has become mutual.



I have no regrets about what I said. Although I managed to cope with all the problems alone, it was very difficult for me.

The worst part is that my mother didn’t pay for my school. It's that she didn't realize she was wrong, and now history is repeating itself with my brother.

It is not that there is no money. She just doesn't want to do it. Mom always had enough money not only for the necessary, but also for personal whims. But my brother and I have never been taken into account.



Well, it seems useless to prove anything to her. I'll certainly try to help Costa. But my mother's actions will never be understood.

Do you think you can understand this behavior of a mother? What would you do if you were our hero? Don’t hesitate to share your thoughts on this in the comments!