Resentment of the mother, whom the son does not invite to the wedding

Parents are always looking forward to their children’s wedding. They want to see their son or daughter in a solemn outfit, happy and in love. And perhaps remember their youth and how they married their husband. Inviting your parents to a wedding is a sacred thing. But there are people who don't think so. One reader told how her son upset her with his decision before the wedding.

“I probably waited for this moment more than my son. I dreamed of taking him down the aisle, hugging a beautiful bride in a wedding dress, cries Lyudmila Nikolaevna.



When Pete was 6 years old, his father left us. I started raising my son alone. It wasn't easy. I had to work two jobs to provide my son with everything he needed. I really wanted him not to feel deprived.



I took a vacation to spend time with my child. There was no talk of any personal life. Wherever. There were men who wanted to live with me, but it didn’t work out. Peter was the only man I could love and give him all my tenderness. And for good reason. Petya grew up a beautiful and very smart young man.



After he graduated with honors from university, he found a good job. There he met his fiancée, Vika. Six months later, they were going to get married. Together, they save money for their own housing, but for now they live on a rented one. Vika is a serious, good girl.



I was already looking forward to the invitation to the wedding, everything asked the exact date. Petya upset me, said that the wedding will not take place. He and Vika just want to sign and exchange rings. No celebrations, no guests, no lavish feasts.



That's what Vic wanted. She convinced my son there was no need to spend too much. Legalizing marriage is a matter of course. But you don't have to call guests. So Petya said I wasn't invited to their wedding. My son says that if I'm at the wedding, I'll have to invite all of Vicky's relatives, and that's not the budget.



I offered them money, said I was willing to pay some of the expenses as a gift to the newlyweds. They made it clear to me to stay at home. Petya tried to comfort me and said that the next day we will celebrate the event at my house, they will bring a cake. Is that possible? I sincerely do not understand such a decision.”



It is not easy to realize that adult children think differently. Of course, it often comes down to money. But young people are not delighted with magnificent weddings and numerous guests. Why don’t the bride and groom invite their parents to the wedding and make it a family event? Do you think you can find a compromise in such a situation?