Why Andrei Tkachev begs the elderly to live separately from young families

Family relations experts unanimously state that parenthood It is unacceptable for a young family. You have to live separately, that's all. And even if there is no separate housing, and the relationship of young people with parents develops perfectly, experts advise to look for any ways to live away. Is that right?

Today's edition. "Site" We invite you to get acquainted with the opinion of Archpriest Andrei Tkachev on this matter. I wonder what the church minister thinks about the life of a young family under the same roof with their parents, who will always help with advice and work.



Cohabitation with parents “What can I advise a young girl before marriage?” A little. If she loves a young man, if he loves her and is willing to marry her, what is the problem?

If he does not drink, work, does not forbid his beloved to go to church and wants children from her, whom he plans to baptize, then this is enough. There are only 4 things you need from a man to marry him, said Andrey Tkachev.



“Of course, he should not be married at the moment, even if he is now divorcing his former wife. I’m just saying that divorce is hard and difficult. If there are no such problems, then great. Even if he's not very churched, it's not that important. This can be solved.”



“And if he offers a hand and a heart and you agree to marry him, then go out, rent an apartment and leave as soon as possible for a separate living space. At least eight square metres, only to be separated from parents.”

“In general, young people after marriage are obliged to live separately from their parents. So that neither father-in-law nor father-in-law would be reproached with a piece of bread. Not to complain that one of the young faucets in the bathroom does not close, or that snores at night, or that socks do not wash, or whatever. You can also live with the light of a person, — sadly smiling, reflects Andrey Tkachev.



“So that you are not reproached with square meters, with your borscht their tasteless, as soon as you are married, move out. Ask your friends not to bring gifts to your wedding. Let them bring the money.”

“So that you can count the money on your wedding night and decide how many months of rent will be enough. In the morning, we saw the ads, rented them, and left with one skinny suitcase. You'll earn the rest. Say goodbye to your parents and wave your pen.”



“There is no need to smoke one ceiling in the same apartment with mother-in-law, father-in-law and all the other beautiful relatives. Otherwise, they will ruin your whole life. Just because parents and adult children love each other only from a distance.”

“Therefore, live separately, even in rented apartments. You need to work, earn, somehow independently adjust your life. It is better to live scarcely, but separately. This is such a sad story, Andrei Tkachev summed up.



It is difficult to disagree with the church on this issue. Surely. personal space Everyone needs it. And the newlyweds are definitely no exception. Moreover, listening to constant advice from older relatives is unpleasant. And this moralization is sure to begin if the whole family lives under one roof for a long time. Isn't that right?