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Why you can’t judge a drinker even in your head
Relatives do not choose, but what to do if the beloved father comes home drunk almost every day? Perhaps some advice from the priest will help in this difficult situation.
We all dream of a happy family to which we want to return. Home should be our most intimate refuge, a place where you are always loved, valued and not judged. One can only sympathize with people who do not have such an opportunity. For example, because of a drunken relative who poisons the life of himself and all his loved ones.
Priest Andrei Tkachev advises not to judge such poor people. I agree with this position, because condemnation rarely leads to something good and certainly does not affect such individuals.
The monk explains that there are two reasons for this behavior. People drink because they are poor, and not just materially. Rather, the reason is mental poverty, lack of empathy and psychological infantilism. People are not used to solving their problems by facing them face to face. And alcoholic beverages are one of the most common types of cowardice, banal escapism.
The second reason the priest calls the inner rift of a person, his fear or sadness. It is in this mental crack that a person pours liters of everything that burns well.
Anyway, from all the above reasons, relatives do not get better. Life is ruined, and I want to run away from home every day. Andrey Tkachev advises in this case to take the path of humility and patience. You need to find a place in the house where you can not be irritated and not argue with a drunken relative.
I advise you to run away from such people. Change your place of residence and Put yourself first.. No one will give you back those years wasted on people who do not want help. Patience is great, but sometimes it can lead your psyche into a very sad state that not every psychologist will correct.
Andrey Tkachev has repeatedly helped our readers with good advice. We hope that his wise words will be useful in this situation. However, remember that you are alone and do not have to devote your whole life to someone else’s salvation, hoping for a better life. future. Create your future now by taking care of yourself.
We all dream of a happy family to which we want to return. Home should be our most intimate refuge, a place where you are always loved, valued and not judged. One can only sympathize with people who do not have such an opportunity. For example, because of a drunken relative who poisons the life of himself and all his loved ones.
Priest Andrei Tkachev advises not to judge such poor people. I agree with this position, because condemnation rarely leads to something good and certainly does not affect such individuals.
The monk explains that there are two reasons for this behavior. People drink because they are poor, and not just materially. Rather, the reason is mental poverty, lack of empathy and psychological infantilism. People are not used to solving their problems by facing them face to face. And alcoholic beverages are one of the most common types of cowardice, banal escapism.
The second reason the priest calls the inner rift of a person, his fear or sadness. It is in this mental crack that a person pours liters of everything that burns well.
Anyway, from all the above reasons, relatives do not get better. Life is ruined, and I want to run away from home every day. Andrey Tkachev advises in this case to take the path of humility and patience. You need to find a place in the house where you can not be irritated and not argue with a drunken relative.
I advise you to run away from such people. Change your place of residence and Put yourself first.. No one will give you back those years wasted on people who do not want help. Patience is great, but sometimes it can lead your psyche into a very sad state that not every psychologist will correct.
Andrey Tkachev has repeatedly helped our readers with good advice. We hope that his wise words will be useful in this situation. However, remember that you are alone and do not have to devote your whole life to someone else’s salvation, hoping for a better life. future. Create your future now by taking care of yourself.
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