What would a brother pay for not wanting to mess around at the bedside of a sick mother?

Someone else in childhood understands that parents need to be respected and greatly appreciated. Someone learns this from life and their own mistakes. And someone has the opportunity to realize that you need to be grateful, inspired by someone else’s example. And this example is not always bright. In the end, even a sad story about how a woeful son repaid an elderly mother for her care and youth spent on his upbringing can help.

My brother Nikita is 5 years older than me. Despite this, it is difficult to call him an older and more independent person. While I immediately after graduation entered the university, moved to another city and began to fully support myself, my brother hung tightly on my mother’s neck.

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“Not only did Nikita not think of getting a job at first, he also managed to bring a girl into the house. While his brother, confident that his scholarships were enough for a carefree life, enjoyed idleness, his mother had to provide not only for him, but also for an unexpected guest.



After a couple of years, the brother still took up his mind and began to slowly get off his mother’s neck. And if the truth is, he did not take it himself, but because his beloved was tired of constant lack of money. He finally found a good job and even had to move into a rented apartment. But by that time, my mother’s health had deteriorated and she needed constant care. So Nikita and her girlfriend had to stay with her mother and look after her.



I settled in another city for a long time, started a family and just could not leave everything and come home. It was also impossible to take my mother to me, as my husband and two children barely got along in a two-room apartment. I knew I had an obligation to my elderly mother. But they were in front of their own family. So I just came on vacation to be with her and help her out as much as I could.



It didn't last more than two years. Then my brother decided he had taken enough care of my mother, and now it's my turn. Immediately after the New Year holidays, Nikita brought my mother to me and announced it. He also said that he intends to sell his mother’s apartment and split the proceeds from the sale in half. He's going to spend half on his girlfriend's wedding and half on his mother and me.



To say that I was shocked is to say nothing. I always knew that brother was a slob. But now it was not he who stood in front of me, but a mercantile scoundrel, ready to renounce his mother, just to live for his own pleasure.

As it turned out for a negligent son, “Of course, I did not drive my mother out of the house.” Where was she going, even in this state? After talking to her husband, we decided that we would put her in our room and try to get along. As for my brother, neither my mother nor I wanted to hear from him. My mother remembers that conversation and is also very upset about what her beloved son did to her.



Nikita’s mother’s apartment was never sold. My brother did not think that it was necessary to get her consent in the first place. And after everything he said, there was no chance my mom would do it.

After a while, my mother recovered and returned to her home. My husband and I also moved to my hometown to be able to look after her if needed. And Nikita still did not appear in our lives after that incident.

Often people, not wanting to offend or burden relatives, keep silent about their problems. They have a feeling that no one understands them. And as a result, people do worse with loved ones than they did not want.

It seems to me that if Nikita had not made plans to sell an apartment behind his mother’s back, but had openly talked to his relatives about his problems, this quarrel could have been avoided. Do you think it was possible to resolve the situation peacefully?