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9 markers that we pay the debts of our ancestors
In every person there is a need to determine THEIR place in lifeIn my practice, psychologist, sometimes, there are cases when it is difficult to understand why the client failed, where did this inexplicable anxiety, periodically and regularly, appearing out of nowhere. Clients say that they feel that don't live your life, notice the "disturbing strangeness" in it.
It would seem, in the story of a man unable to cite any significant traumatic events and stress,however, he is experiencing post-traumatic reactions — sudden bouts of fear, its physiological manifestations — heart rate, tremor, sweating, tension in the body, etc., or, for example, compulsive actions, phobias, depression.
And a good solution is to go to the family history, and, in the process of research, you can find the source of the symptom that the relative projected on the children, unsuspecting about it.
In the course of therapeutic work, proselytization, insight that will allow you to get rid of symptoms, to stop, to pay the debts of their ancestors, to turn the page inacti own life with a clean slate.
To illustrate the impact on us of the energy kind, I want to offer you to perform a small diagnostic and resource exercise. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, listen to his calm breathing. Remember this feeling. Now imagine that behind you sit your mom and dad. What do you feel? Now, visualize of the mother's parents and father each spin. Feelings have changed? Now, everyone from grandparents — their parents, whether you know them or not.
4th generation — 31 people!
Now turn around, look at them.
The existence of each of them resulted in Your life, each of them has contributed to what you have now. Feel the energy coming from the depths of centuries.
Fix your feelings.
Exercise "Visualization Of The Genus"
If you feel warm, positive and light energy, this means that the force is with you, and all these people behind your back to help You. Your kind carries great resources and abilities. It is very good! But, sometimes, there can be other sensations from this exercise.If the feelings are unpleasant, then perhaps it would be worthwhile to work with the story of his family independently or with the help of a specialist.
Consider some of the markers, allowing to reveal the destructiveness of the family system:
1. Syndrome anniversary. Carefully check the dates of important events in your life (date of birth, wedding, birth of children, deaths, diseases, etc.) for the presence of repeats and synchrony.
2. The significance of the name.
The name of the person is one of the foundations of its identity, surname, name and patronymic (in Russian tradition) may determine the place of man in the three-dimensional coordinate system in time, space and history. Having similar names for several generations can also be a reason to more closely examine the reasons for the choice of this name and associated expectations.Z. Freud wrote that "Names make children of ghosts"
3. Relationships and role expectations in the family.
Identify the relationships between people within a family compare patterns of relationships in several generations, you'll probably notice similar.
4. Family secrets.
The presence of the unspoken, shameful secrets in the family (incest, rape, imprisonment, mental illness, etc.), not explicitly, but a destructive influence on the children, manifesting itself in unexplainable actions, sudden attacks of fear and anxiety, and also other oddities in the behavior of family members.
5. Family myths.
The presence of the family rituals and customs usually holds a family gives a sense of belonging, allow you to feel secure in a predictable environment, however, in some cases, the rigidity of the family framework limits the development of the individual members, and may even have a negative impact on the psychological well-being, manifesting itself in the form of various symptoms of physical and psychological.
6. Accidents, illness, premature death, miscarriages and other tragic events that repeat from generation to generation.
If you noticed this fact, it can with high probability indicate the presence of TRANS - generational transmission and the phenomena of TRANS - generational repetition.
7. The presence of incomplete mourning in the family
Gone but not mourned, are not buried.
8. "Dead mother syndrome".
The loss of a parent a child at an early age, depressed mother in the first year of a child's life.
9. "Replacement child."
If the born child is like a compensation for the loss of another person, child, husband, brother, this is also the reason for carrying out studies of its kind. It should be noted that the presence of these markers cannot diagnose the problem, but allows to determine the range in which there may be one thread that will unravel the tangle, not giving the person the freedom to live and make decisions.
It is a challenging job, but extremely useful and interesting. Because in every man there is a need to determine their place in life. As a result, there is a heightened awareness, which entails the harmonization of self and relationships with others, be the energy and resources in achieving the goals. published
Author: Anna Hadasova
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: //psy-practice.com/publications/travmy/9_markerov_togo_chto_mi_oplachivaem_dolgi_nashih_pre/
It would seem, in the story of a man unable to cite any significant traumatic events and stress,however, he is experiencing post-traumatic reactions — sudden bouts of fear, its physiological manifestations — heart rate, tremor, sweating, tension in the body, etc., or, for example, compulsive actions, phobias, depression.
And a good solution is to go to the family history, and, in the process of research, you can find the source of the symptom that the relative projected on the children, unsuspecting about it.
In the course of therapeutic work, proselytization, insight that will allow you to get rid of symptoms, to stop, to pay the debts of their ancestors, to turn the page inacti own life with a clean slate.
To illustrate the impact on us of the energy kind, I want to offer you to perform a small diagnostic and resource exercise. Sit comfortably, close your eyes, listen to his calm breathing. Remember this feeling. Now imagine that behind you sit your mom and dad. What do you feel? Now, visualize of the mother's parents and father each spin. Feelings have changed? Now, everyone from grandparents — their parents, whether you know them or not.
4th generation — 31 people!
Now turn around, look at them.
The existence of each of them resulted in Your life, each of them has contributed to what you have now. Feel the energy coming from the depths of centuries.
Fix your feelings.
Exercise "Visualization Of The Genus"
If you feel warm, positive and light energy, this means that the force is with you, and all these people behind your back to help You. Your kind carries great resources and abilities. It is very good! But, sometimes, there can be other sensations from this exercise.If the feelings are unpleasant, then perhaps it would be worthwhile to work with the story of his family independently or with the help of a specialist.
Consider some of the markers, allowing to reveal the destructiveness of the family system:
1. Syndrome anniversary. Carefully check the dates of important events in your life (date of birth, wedding, birth of children, deaths, diseases, etc.) for the presence of repeats and synchrony.
2. The significance of the name.
The name of the person is one of the foundations of its identity, surname, name and patronymic (in Russian tradition) may determine the place of man in the three-dimensional coordinate system in time, space and history. Having similar names for several generations can also be a reason to more closely examine the reasons for the choice of this name and associated expectations.Z. Freud wrote that "Names make children of ghosts"
3. Relationships and role expectations in the family.
Identify the relationships between people within a family compare patterns of relationships in several generations, you'll probably notice similar.
4. Family secrets.
The presence of the unspoken, shameful secrets in the family (incest, rape, imprisonment, mental illness, etc.), not explicitly, but a destructive influence on the children, manifesting itself in unexplainable actions, sudden attacks of fear and anxiety, and also other oddities in the behavior of family members.
5. Family myths.
The presence of the family rituals and customs usually holds a family gives a sense of belonging, allow you to feel secure in a predictable environment, however, in some cases, the rigidity of the family framework limits the development of the individual members, and may even have a negative impact on the psychological well-being, manifesting itself in the form of various symptoms of physical and psychological.
6. Accidents, illness, premature death, miscarriages and other tragic events that repeat from generation to generation.
If you noticed this fact, it can with high probability indicate the presence of TRANS - generational transmission and the phenomena of TRANS - generational repetition.
7. The presence of incomplete mourning in the family
Gone but not mourned, are not buried.
8. "Dead mother syndrome".
The loss of a parent a child at an early age, depressed mother in the first year of a child's life.
9. "Replacement child."
If the born child is like a compensation for the loss of another person, child, husband, brother, this is also the reason for carrying out studies of its kind. It should be noted that the presence of these markers cannot diagnose the problem, but allows to determine the range in which there may be one thread that will unravel the tangle, not giving the person the freedom to live and make decisions.
It is a challenging job, but extremely useful and interesting. Because in every man there is a need to determine their place in life. As a result, there is a heightened awareness, which entails the harmonization of self and relationships with others, be the energy and resources in achieving the goals. published
Author: Anna Hadasova
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©
Source: //psy-practice.com/publications/travmy/9_markerov_togo_chto_mi_oplachivaem_dolgi_nashih_pre/
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