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The end of the school year is approaching and the issue of pressure on children in terms of grades is becoming more acute. Many parents demand from their child only “fives”, not realizing what such demands can lead to a poor child. To some extent, this also applies to my family.
As the owner of the strongest complex of excellent students and trying to win it, with the persistence inherent in the owner of such a complex, I try to prevent conditions under which my daughter will have something similar. How do we feel about school grades? No way. We try to assess her knowledge, level of development, ability to think. This is much more important than a bunch of fives. The child knows this because we told her, ‘We don’t care what grades you give.’ The main thing is what will be in your head.
However, there is a grandmother... Here she puts pressure on the child, who, by the way, without any assistants gets his "fives". But every time I hear from her, "You try, take the exam or the test at 5." Good girls go to 5! What nonsense? Where does this come from?
Of course, when it is said in our presence, we try to explain to our mother that she is wrong and should not say such things to the child. But without us there is probably zombies. Because the daughter sometimes behaves very revealingly. She either counts her fives or says she doesn’t want to be a good girl.
Now, while she's in primary school, A's are easy. But then will certainly begin the conditions in which for an excellent assessment will have to work hard. Is it really necessary? I still remember my school and my fives too well, so I can confidently say that sometimes an assessment is not an indicator of knowledge at all, but just an indicator of the teacher’s attitude towards you. And you try to get it to please your parents. It turns out that the stubborn struggle for fives is nothing more than a degree of sycophancy. I like raising a prude and sycophant even less than raising a daughter who is complex and fixated on assessments.
What gives “5+” in English, flaunting in the diary, if the child does not know the meaning of the verb “to be” and does not understand at all what he does and for what. And the teachers keep putting the 5+. I understand why this happens, grades in school are not given to the student, but to the teacher. But you have to justify them, at least half. . .
The daughter has several girls in her class whose parents are very sensitive to grades. Because of this, girls are constantly stressed before the test, and before each lesson. I look at it and I start to shake internally. I recognize myself for every grade other than five.
It will not end well for poor children. And my attempts to talk to my parents on this subject have revealed to me even more unhappy people, ex-awards or good-natured women, who still sincerely believe in the value of assessments and consider them an objective indicator of knowledge. They give their complexes to children. They are not aware that they are hurting their psyche.
I don’t understand how an adult who has passed school, university and other educational institutions can be sure of the importance of grades. Have you ever been taught to think and analyze? They hurt him so that now he hurts others.
How do you feel about your children’s school grades?
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
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As the owner of the strongest complex of excellent students and trying to win it, with the persistence inherent in the owner of such a complex, I try to prevent conditions under which my daughter will have something similar. How do we feel about school grades? No way. We try to assess her knowledge, level of development, ability to think. This is much more important than a bunch of fives. The child knows this because we told her, ‘We don’t care what grades you give.’ The main thing is what will be in your head.
However, there is a grandmother... Here she puts pressure on the child, who, by the way, without any assistants gets his "fives". But every time I hear from her, "You try, take the exam or the test at 5." Good girls go to 5! What nonsense? Where does this come from?
Of course, when it is said in our presence, we try to explain to our mother that she is wrong and should not say such things to the child. But without us there is probably zombies. Because the daughter sometimes behaves very revealingly. She either counts her fives or says she doesn’t want to be a good girl.
Now, while she's in primary school, A's are easy. But then will certainly begin the conditions in which for an excellent assessment will have to work hard. Is it really necessary? I still remember my school and my fives too well, so I can confidently say that sometimes an assessment is not an indicator of knowledge at all, but just an indicator of the teacher’s attitude towards you. And you try to get it to please your parents. It turns out that the stubborn struggle for fives is nothing more than a degree of sycophancy. I like raising a prude and sycophant even less than raising a daughter who is complex and fixated on assessments.
What gives “5+” in English, flaunting in the diary, if the child does not know the meaning of the verb “to be” and does not understand at all what he does and for what. And the teachers keep putting the 5+. I understand why this happens, grades in school are not given to the student, but to the teacher. But you have to justify them, at least half. . .
The daughter has several girls in her class whose parents are very sensitive to grades. Because of this, girls are constantly stressed before the test, and before each lesson. I look at it and I start to shake internally. I recognize myself for every grade other than five.
It will not end well for poor children. And my attempts to talk to my parents on this subject have revealed to me even more unhappy people, ex-awards or good-natured women, who still sincerely believe in the value of assessments and consider them an objective indicator of knowledge. They give their complexes to children. They are not aware that they are hurting their psyche.
I don’t understand how an adult who has passed school, university and other educational institutions can be sure of the importance of grades. Have you ever been taught to think and analyze? They hurt him so that now he hurts others.
How do you feel about your children’s school grades?
P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!
Join us on Facebook, VKontakte, Odnoklassniki
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