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7 unforgivable mistakes education
You are calm for their children's future? How do you educate them in leadership? Today's parents with their hands deprive children of the opportunity to become leaders and independent personalities.
We offer a fresh look at the main mistakes that allow parents in the upbringing of children, expert on leadership, author of more than 25 books, founder and President of the organization Growing Leaders ("Growing leaders") Tim Elmore. Current parents are too babysit the children, I'm sure Tim Elmore.
So:
1. We deprive children of the opportunity to take risks
The modern world is full of dangers, so we used to think. Fear of losing children compels us to surround them with care. Thus, complete elimination of even a reasonable risk is a bad thing. European studies show: children who are in child playing in the street and, figuratively speaking, "not skinned knees", often suffer from phobias, when you grow up.
Children should fall a few times to understand that this is normal. Teenagers should survive the tribulations of young love, to gain emotional maturity, which is essential to long-term relationships. If adults eliminate the risk from children's lives, generate excessive arrogance and low self-esteem in your growing leaders.
2. We are rescues too quickly
The representatives of the current generation of young often lack many life skills that were their peers 20-30 years ago, because the parents of today's young people too quickly enough to solve problems for their children. Lightning help saves children from having to get out of difficult situations and to solve problems independently.
Such education is short-sighted and contrary to the principles of leadership, we need to equip the young with the experience to cope with adversity without assistance. Otherwise, sooner or later, the youngsters get used to the fact that their rescue: "If I make a mistake or don't reach the goal, then adults will fix and you will suffer consequences". Although in reality the world is completely different and your children will be a maladjusted adult life.
3. Children seek praise too easy
Take a look at today's sport clubs. They're all "winners". The principle of "everyone gets an award" helps each child to feel special, but research indicates that this principle leads to unintended consequences. After some time, the children notice that mom and dad are the only one who finds them awesome, so they begin to question the objectivity of the parents.
If children are easily rewarded, and bad behavior parents turn a blind eye, over time these children learn to cheat, exaggerate and lie to avoid difficult reality. Because they are not adapted to face challenges.
4. We allow guilt to overshadow good behavior
There is no need that the child loved you every minute. Your children have to overcome many troubles, but they can prevent spoiled. So tell them "no" or "not now" so they fought for what they need. Where the number of children, parents usually consider unfair to reward one child and leave the rest deprived.
By such actions, we miss the opportunity to show the children that success depends on our own efforts and good deeds. And think twice before you reward kids with trips to shopping malls. Relationships based on material incentives killed in the child's inner motivation and unconditional love.
5. We do not share the errors of our past
Adults should allow teenagers to stretch their wings and fill their cones. However, this does not mean that parents cannot help children to navigate in unknown waters. Share the mistakes you made at their age, to help choose the right path (avoid negative moralizing about the harm of Smoking, alcohol and drugs).
In addition, the children must be ready to meet with troubles and be able to answer for the consequences of their decisions. Tell them that you felt when faced with similar circumstances, what guided in his actions, what are the lessons learned. Because we should not just affect children, but influence in the best way.
6. We confuse the concept of "intelligence", "talent" and "maturity"
Often the intelligence of the child is accepted for his willingness to life in the real world. This is not so. For example, some famous athletes or actors have outstanding talent, and still get into trouble.
If the child is gifted in one thing, don't think that the talent permeates the rest of his life. Have responsibility there is no "magic age", and there is no universal guidance, when to give the child freedom, but there is a good rule to observe children of the same age. If the peers of your child is more independent, then perhaps you should provide more independence in your child.
19 simply brilliant tips for parents
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7. Our words with our actions
Our job as parents to model life for children, to help them find the vital nature, to become people who are responsible for their words and actions. We are the leaders in our homes, so needs to adhere to the truth in relationships, and sweet lie sooner or later revealed and slowly corrodes the young character.
Take care of yourself in moments of moral choice, because you see other people, especially your children. For example, if you are going to bypass the rules, the children will know that it is unacceptable for them. Show the children what it means to wholly and gladly to help public organizations and communities. Do not spit into the well from which you drink, and children will do the same.published
Author: Tim Elmore
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.e-xecutive.ru/management/practices/1903451-Uroki-liderstva-dlya-roditeley-ili-Sem-oshibok-vospitaniya
We offer a fresh look at the main mistakes that allow parents in the upbringing of children, expert on leadership, author of more than 25 books, founder and President of the organization Growing Leaders ("Growing leaders") Tim Elmore. Current parents are too babysit the children, I'm sure Tim Elmore.
So:
1. We deprive children of the opportunity to take risks
The modern world is full of dangers, so we used to think. Fear of losing children compels us to surround them with care. Thus, complete elimination of even a reasonable risk is a bad thing. European studies show: children who are in child playing in the street and, figuratively speaking, "not skinned knees", often suffer from phobias, when you grow up.
Children should fall a few times to understand that this is normal. Teenagers should survive the tribulations of young love, to gain emotional maturity, which is essential to long-term relationships. If adults eliminate the risk from children's lives, generate excessive arrogance and low self-esteem in your growing leaders.
2. We are rescues too quickly
The representatives of the current generation of young often lack many life skills that were their peers 20-30 years ago, because the parents of today's young people too quickly enough to solve problems for their children. Lightning help saves children from having to get out of difficult situations and to solve problems independently.
Such education is short-sighted and contrary to the principles of leadership, we need to equip the young with the experience to cope with adversity without assistance. Otherwise, sooner or later, the youngsters get used to the fact that their rescue: "If I make a mistake or don't reach the goal, then adults will fix and you will suffer consequences". Although in reality the world is completely different and your children will be a maladjusted adult life.
3. Children seek praise too easy
Take a look at today's sport clubs. They're all "winners". The principle of "everyone gets an award" helps each child to feel special, but research indicates that this principle leads to unintended consequences. After some time, the children notice that mom and dad are the only one who finds them awesome, so they begin to question the objectivity of the parents.
If children are easily rewarded, and bad behavior parents turn a blind eye, over time these children learn to cheat, exaggerate and lie to avoid difficult reality. Because they are not adapted to face challenges.
4. We allow guilt to overshadow good behavior
There is no need that the child loved you every minute. Your children have to overcome many troubles, but they can prevent spoiled. So tell them "no" or "not now" so they fought for what they need. Where the number of children, parents usually consider unfair to reward one child and leave the rest deprived.
By such actions, we miss the opportunity to show the children that success depends on our own efforts and good deeds. And think twice before you reward kids with trips to shopping malls. Relationships based on material incentives killed in the child's inner motivation and unconditional love.
5. We do not share the errors of our past
Adults should allow teenagers to stretch their wings and fill their cones. However, this does not mean that parents cannot help children to navigate in unknown waters. Share the mistakes you made at their age, to help choose the right path (avoid negative moralizing about the harm of Smoking, alcohol and drugs).
In addition, the children must be ready to meet with troubles and be able to answer for the consequences of their decisions. Tell them that you felt when faced with similar circumstances, what guided in his actions, what are the lessons learned. Because we should not just affect children, but influence in the best way.
6. We confuse the concept of "intelligence", "talent" and "maturity"
Often the intelligence of the child is accepted for his willingness to life in the real world. This is not so. For example, some famous athletes or actors have outstanding talent, and still get into trouble.
If the child is gifted in one thing, don't think that the talent permeates the rest of his life. Have responsibility there is no "magic age", and there is no universal guidance, when to give the child freedom, but there is a good rule to observe children of the same age. If the peers of your child is more independent, then perhaps you should provide more independence in your child.
19 simply brilliant tips for parents
And that will spoil!
7. Our words with our actions
Our job as parents to model life for children, to help them find the vital nature, to become people who are responsible for their words and actions. We are the leaders in our homes, so needs to adhere to the truth in relationships, and sweet lie sooner or later revealed and slowly corrodes the young character.
Take care of yourself in moments of moral choice, because you see other people, especially your children. For example, if you are going to bypass the rules, the children will know that it is unacceptable for them. Show the children what it means to wholly and gladly to help public organizations and communities. Do not spit into the well from which you drink, and children will do the same.published
Author: Tim Elmore
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.e-xecutive.ru/management/practices/1903451-Uroki-liderstva-dlya-roditeley-ili-Sem-oshibok-vospitaniya
