When a person do not understand something, but to explain it somehow still not, a person creates a myth. Myth - replacement of information and knowledge imagination and fantasy. Moreover, the basis of his - own impressions and fragmentary experience. < Website lists the major myths of family life that have been debunked a long time ago, but most people still believe in them.
Jofo.ru Myth №1 The main thing - love; everything else - self-will » - a very popular, especially among young people and young couples, a myth
What could be more beautiful than love? But why break up marriages and families are destroyed by the shortest time based solely on feelings of love? Probably the most important is not only love, which is sometimes like a flash, and just as quickly disappear, but also the ability of mutual loving people, the spouses keep it, constantly updating; the ability to see the prospects for its growth and to create appropriate conditions for love.
If you rely only on love, you can lose the independence first, and then love itself. «selfishness in love" (when all around -for them and all surrounding ceases to exist) can go to the usual expectation of help from family, relatives, friends, loved one. Love as a minimum must "serve" itself, creating a family atmosphere of creativity and interest in the development of the relationship, its own qualities and abilities.
But apparently not everyone love moves to the next stage and to take an active and creative and constructive, creative form
Myth №2. "Endure - slyubitsya" or "the main thing - to develop the habit of marriage partner and to family life, and love will arise later » - a myth, contrary to previous (like most myths each other)
Myth appeared more as a psychological defense in a marriage of convenience even in ancient times. Tolerance was regarded as a virtue, and often on it kept the marriage. Modern wife no longer want to "tolerate", but many of them still can not and are not able to keep the family together.
However, marriages netting that love will come later, not uncommon in our time. Usually this happens when people feel that they fit together. Expectations are justified if the spouses reciprocated in their quest, caring, attentive and helpful to each other, that is, create the most favorable atmosphere for her -.. Love - appearance
. myth №3 «Family worries distract from your favorite activities impede professional growth» - a myth prevalent among some unmarried and single people, families in unstable and conflict
But hampered not care, and all that lets create a happy family and interesting, attractive, happy family life. According to all the people that have achieved something significant in your life, favorable family relationships are a necessary condition for success.
From the book "Help the young family", 1987, Moscow