27 rules of a gentleman

Surprisingly, more than 100 years of rules of etiquette have not changed.

We want to introduce you to the basic rules of communication for the gentlemen who first published in 1875 in A Gentleman's Guide to Etiquette author Cecil B. Hartley.

Let's behave like educated people.



Horse riding inexperience is a distraction while talking on his watch, the handset or notebook. Even if you're tired and you're bored, do not show this.

Never interrupt someone who says. Even a simple clarification of the wrong choice can be rude if you that nobody asked. Even worse for the man to finish his thought, or rush him in any way. Waiting until the end of the anecdote or story, even familiar to you.

Never attempt to prove his innocence by raising the voice, arrogant or derogatory treatment. Always be kind and honest , free of any dictatorship.

Never, of course, if you do not ask, do not talk about your own business or profession in society. Generally less to pay attention to his person.

A gentleman with a real intellect and culture tend to be modest. It may feel like being in the ordinary society, that intellectually it is higher than those around him, but he will not seek to show its superiority over them. He will not seek to cover topics in which the interlocutors do not have the relevant expertise. All what he says, has always marked courtesy and respect for the feelings and opinions of others.

No less important than the ability to speak well, the ability to listen with interest. It is what makes a person a great conversationalist and distinguishes man from a good society.

Never listen to a conversation between two people, which is not intended for you. If they are so close that you can not hear them, you can, respecting standards, just go to another place.

Try to speak as much as possible, brief and to the point. Avoid prolonged distractions and do not relate to the subject of comments.

If you heed flattery, then you must also open the gates of stupidity and excessive self-importance.

Even if you are sure that your opponent is completely wrong, Keep calm discussion , the arguments and counterarguments Speak not to get personal. If you see that the other person is adamant in his error, then deftly move the conversation to another subject, leaving him to save face, and you avoid the anger and irritation.

Please, if you like, persistent political beliefs. But not over-emphasize them in any case, and in any case, do not force others to agree with you. Listen calmly other opinions and not get stuck in a fierce debate. Let your partner will think you are a bad policy, but did not give him a reason to doubt that you are a gentleman.

Talking about your friends, do not compare them with each other. Talk about the merits of each of them, but do not try to enhance the dignity of the opposition by the faults of others.

Avoid talking to any fact that could injure missing. A gentleman would never slander or libel listen.

Even witty man becomes tiresome and rude when he tries to completely absorb the attention of the company.

Avoid too frequent use of quotations and thought great. As a seasoning for food, they can decorate a conversation, but an excessive amount of spoil the dish.

Avoid pedantry. This is not a sign of intelligence and stupidity.

speak their language properly , at the same time not be too big supporter of the formal correctness of phrases.

Never make remarks if others make mistakes in his speech. Pay attention to words or actions such mistakes is a sign of bad manners interlocutor.

If you are an expert or a scientist, avoid the use of technical terms. This is a sign of bad taste, because many of them do not understand. If, however, you happen to have used such a word or phrase, even greater mistake would immediately rush to explain its meaning. No one will thank you for such an emphasis on their ignorance.

Never seek to play the role of a jester, because very quickly you will gain glory "ridiculous man" for the parties. This role is not valid for this gentleman. Strive to make your sides laughing with you, not at you.

Avoid boasting. Talk about your money, telephone, is a sign of very bad taste. Similarly, you can not be proud of your closeness with outstanding people, even if it takes place. The constant emphasis on "my friend, the governor of X", or "my close friend, the president of Y» is pompous and unacceptable.

Do not try to give her the image of excessive depth and refinement , contemptuously rejecting the cheerful conversations, jokes and entertainment. Try to act in accordance with the society in which you are, if it's not in conflict with other rules of the gentleman.

Roughly, indecent and foolish inserted into his speech quotes, expressions and terms in a foreign language.

If you feel that you start to get angry in a conversation, then either refer to another topic, or shut up. You can say in the heat of passion words you would never use in a calm state of mind, and then you will regret it bitterly.

"Do not talk about rope in the presence of a man, a relative who was hanged" - although it is rude but true proverb. Carefully avoid those that might be too personal for the interlocutor, do not interfere in other people's family affairs
Although travel contribute to the development of mind and outlook gentleman, still not worth it at any rate, to insert the phrase: "when I was in Paris ...", "Italy did not wear ..." and so on.

Avoid gossip. This is a woman looks disgusting, but for men it is absolutely despicable.

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