Terms gentleman

The meaning of the term "gentleman" has changed somewhat over time - if one is implied by the word of the upper classes, but now it's just a definition educated man, adhere to certain principles and rules of conduct. But most importantly do not shell. Much more important is the essence, the spirit, the code if you like. So in this respect for a hundred and fifty years since the publication in A Gentleman's Guide to Etiquette author Cecil B. Hartley in 1875, the rules of communication did not significantly changed. All true and today.

1.Verhom have bad manners distraction while talking on his watch, the handset or notebook. Even if you're tired and you're bored, do not show it.
2.Nikogda not interrupt the person who speaks. Even a simple clarification of incorrect date may be impolite if you that nobody asked. Even worse for the man to finish his thought, or rush him in any way. Waiting until the end of the anecdote or story, even you are already familiar.
3.Nikogda do not try to prove their case by increasing the voice of arrogance or Degrading Treatment. Always be kind and honest, free from any dictatorship.
4.Nikogda, unless, of course, you did not ask do not tell about your own business or profession in society. Generally less pay attention to his person.
5.Dzhentlmen with a real intelligence and culture tend to be modest. It may feel while in ordinary society that intellectually it is above those around him, but he will not seek to show its superiority over them. He will not seek to address the topics in which the interlocutors do not have the relevant expertise. Everything he says is always marked courtesy and respect for the feelings and opinions of others.
6. Do not less important than the ability to speak well, the ability to listen with interest. That makes it an excellent companion of man and distinguishes man from a good society.
7. Never listen to a conversation between two people that is not meant for you. If they are so close that you can not hear them, you can Keeping Up Appearances just go to another place.
8.Staraytes say, as far as possible, brief and to the point. Avoid prolonged distractions and not related to the subject of comments.
9. If you heed the flattery, then you must also open the gates of stupidity and excessive self-conceit.
10.Dazhe if you are sure that your opponent is completely wrong, keep calm discussion, to express the arguments and counter-arguments without going to the individual. If you see that the other person is adamant in his error, then deftly move the conversation to another subject, leaving him to save face, and you avoid the anger and irritation.
11.Imeyte if you want persistent political beliefs. But not over-emphasize them in any way and, in any case, do not force others to agree with you. Listen quietly other opinions and not get stuck in a fierce debate. Let your partner will think you are a bad policy, but do not give him a reason to doubt that you are a gentleman.
12.Govorya about your friends, do not compare them with each other. Talk about the merits of each of them, but do not try to enhance the dignity of one at the expense of other opposition vices.
13.Izbegayte in any conversation topics that may injure missing. A gentleman would never slander or libel listen.
14.Dazhe witty man becomes tedious and rude when he tries to completely absorb the attention of the company.
15.Izbegayte too frequent use of quotations and thought great. As a seasoning for food, they can decorate a conversation, but an excessive amount of spoil the dish.
16.Izbegayte pedantry. This is not a sign of intelligence and stupidity.
17.Govorite in their native language correctly, at the same time do not be too big supporter of the formal correctness of phrases.
18.Nikogda do not make comments if others make mistakes in his speech. Pay attention to words or other action on such mistakes is a sign of bad manners interlocutor.
19.If you are an expert or scientist, avoid the use of technical terms. It is bad taste, because many do not understand them. If, however, you happen to use a word or phrase, an even bigger mistake would immediately rush to explain its meaning. No one will thank you for such an emphasis on their ignorance.
20.Nikogda not aspire to play the role of a clown, because very quickly you will get the glory "of a Ridiculous Man" for parties. This role is not valid for this gentleman. Strive to make your sides laughing with you, not at you.
21.Izbegayte boasting. Talk about their money, telephone, is a very bad taste. Similarly, you can not be proud of your closeness with outstanding people, even if it takes place. The constant emphasis on "my friend, the governor of X", or "my close friend, the president of Y» is pompous and unacceptable.
22.Ne strive to give your image the excessive depth and sophistication, contemptuously rejecting the cheerful conversations, jokes and entertainment. Try to act in accordance with the society in which you are, if it's not in conflict with other rules of a gentleman.
23.Yavlyaetsya downright rude, impolite and stupid insert in his speech quotations, expressions and terms in a foreign language.
24.Esli you feel that getting angry in a conversation, then either refer to another topic, or shut up. You can say in the heat of passion words you would never use in a calm state of mind, and then you will bitterly regret.
25. "Do not talk about rope in the presence of a man, a relative who was hanged" - although this is rude, but true proverb. Carefully avoid those that might be too personal for a friend, do not interfere in other people's family affairs. Do not seek to discuss other people's secrets, but if you still have entrusted them. then treat it as a very valuable sign and never pass on their knowledge to a third party.
26.Hotya travel contribute to the development of mind and outlook gentleman, still not worth it at least to insert the phrase: "when I was in Paris ...", "in Italy do not have ..." and so on.
27.Izbegayte gossip. This is a woman looks disgusting, but for men it is absolutely despicable.