LESSON charisma and leadership

1. Do so that your interlocutors feel the most intelligent, charming and interesting people

2. Behave so that people feel during a conversation that you do not think about anything else:
 - Lower the tone to the end of the sentence.
 - Nod.
 - Take a two-second pause before replying to a remark.

3. Think about pleasant to smile sincerely
The brain sometimes does not notice the difference between reality and fantasy, so when you think of something pleasant, you respond to it positively, and your smile looks genuine. People are "read" by a person in just 17 milliseconds, so that any slightest manifestation of negativity will be easily seen. Insincere smile people feel subconsciously.

4. When you greet someone, get up from a chair, to be with him about the same height, and shaking hands, take your other hand out of his pocket

5. Be a great listener: to pause and ask questions
John F. Kennedy was an excellent listener. His interlocutors believed that he was "with them" entirely. Usually when we listen, we are waiting for the end of the replica interlocutor to speak for themselves. To show that you are listening, ask questions. If you really interested, as you are told to hide it will be extremely difficult.

6. Carefully choose a seat at the table
Choosing a place can greatly affect the outcome of the negotiations. When people sit opposite each other, and the table as it separates them, they often argue, saying curtly, using short sentences. If you initially want to avoid a confrontation with someone sit next to or at right angles to it.

7. Maintain humanity
To become a leader, not necessarily possess physical strength. Need to demonstrate the strengths of personality - intelligence, like Bill Gates, or kindness, as the Dalai Lama. When you reach a certain level of power, your charisma will grow, but we can not forget about humanity - otherwise you run the risk of being branded a dictator.

8. Defeat "impostor syndrome»
In 1978, scientists at the University of Georgia found that the so-called "impostor syndrome" affects about 70% of people. It generates self-doubt - if you expect that you expose. This is an extremely negative effect on charisma.

9. In advance prepare for big events
You will never run through a marathon without training and not a speech, not pre-rehearsed. Also, you will not be able to feel strong and confident by magic. It is necessary to conduct a "preparatory" work.
If you are running relaxing, take the time to run. Or just listen to good music before an important meeting. Make sure that there are songs in the playlist that you like and give confidence.