How to help your child become more independent

Many people complain about the modern generation of children and teenagers, saying that they are helpless in terms of household and routine household chores. Is that really true?





The development of independence in a child is easiest to assess level of autonomy The children are now, compared to the level they were a hundred years ago. Of course, one should not take literally all the responsibilities that were before and demand the same from modern children. Even most adult women don’t know how to spin, do they?





However, we can compare the number of responsibilities, their complexity, and the age at which a little girl was considered almost a century ago. housewife. We can also compare these facts with what is happening in the lives of ten-year-old children.





Children's responsibilities

1. Children have become independent already. ages 5-6. It was at this age that the daughters of peasant families began to learn everything that their mother and grandmother knew. The parents told the children to watch how they performed their duties around the house, and then asked them to do some small and simple part of the work.
   
   
   
   For comparison, now children at this age, few parents will be allowed to enter the kitchen, let alone trust a younger brother or sister. Perhaps this age is really not quite suitable for trusting such serious things, but good for those parents who at least Begin to teach children awareness and responsibility.
   
   
   
   
   
   Development of independence in preschool children This is the first step in preparing them for adulthood, full of responsibilities and work life.
   
   
2. Previously, children at the age of 10 clearly understood how much to appreciate parents, their work and care. Children were vaccinated with malady love and respect for elders. There could be no talk of any whims. And certainly no tantrums in the store about another unnecessary toy or designer.
   
   
   
   It is not that the parents in Russia did not love their children. They loved them very much, but they soberly looked at life and understood that in no case should a helpless infant at the age of 18 be released into the adult and hostile world.
   
   And since the age range was slightly different and adulthood began at the age of 16, respectively. teach They started much earlier, too.
   
   
   
   
   
   If you really love your child, you will do a great service to his future, if at an early age you begin to educate him and adapt him to all that awaits him. adulthood.
   
   
3. The peasant life was not easy at all. A little girl in 10 years had to be able to weave, sew, cook, look after the household and younger siblings.
   
   
   
   In fact, many have already worked at this age. Neighbors often hired little girls to look after small children. They were often paid with products, sometimes with money.
   
   
   
   
   
   Nowadays, many people find a job or even a first job only after 20 years. Of course, there are different cases and different teenagers. It all depends on your education and your own example. In a family where a father vaccinates a boy responsibility and desire to provide for themselves and their familiesA young man will never take parental money and try to help the family as soon as he can.
   
   

Parents should love their children. However, many moms and dads do not realize that Development of independence in young children This is the highest manifestation of parental love.





Of course, you should hug your baby, give him gifts and tell him every day how much he is dear to you and what a big role he plays in your life.

But what you should not do is turn your child into the navel of the earth, fulfilling its slightest requirement. The child should rejoice and appreciate gifts, because this is something special that happens infrequently.

At the same time, you should not turn the purchase of the right things into gifts. For example, parents often buy a jacket or new winter shoes as a holiday present. Such an attitude can disrupt the child’s idea of the holiday and greatly disappoint him.

Love your children and start taking care of their future now!