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What Single Mothers Should Do Every Day
Since 2000, the number of single mothers has increased significantly. Some, due to certain circumstances, simply have to raise children alone.
However, many women of the XXI century independently decide to live and raise children without the participation of a man (father). There are many reasons for this decision. But today we will not talk about the reasons, but about the consequences of such a decision.
Often, attempts to combine career and motherhood cause only a chronic feeling of fatigue, which is later very difficult to get rid of.
Today's edition. "Site" He will try to understand why motherhood sometimes takes away the last strength and how to overcome the chronic feeling of fatigue that arose as a result of constant employment.
For example, let’s share with you the story of one of our readers.
Feeling tired: I always aspired to be a flawless mother to my triplets. For 5 years, all my efforts were aimed at creating comfortable conditions for my children. I was confident that their happiness and well-being would automatically become my own. But over the past year, all my works seem to have lost all meaning ..., says 36-year-old Angelina.
“When the boys were born, my husband and I were a model couple. Many of our acquaintances were envious, because the happier family in the district was almost impossible to find.
But after 2 years, my relationship with my husband began to deteriorate. And when the sons celebrated their fourth birthday, petty domestic quarrels turned into real scandals, and I decided to file for divorce.
The husband quickly agreed, so he soon packed up and moved into another apartment. To be honest, at first, his behavior just stunned me. I couldn’t understand how he could so easily give up everything we built and built together. However, after some time, mutual acquaintances confessed to me that for a year he had an affair on the side, so everything immediately fell into place.
My ex-husband's lies made me so angry that I told him not to see the children. For a while he was still trying to offer me some help, but I just couldn't accept it. I think many people will understand why...
It's been a long time since then. Resentment is forgotten, but the offer of help is increasingly coming to mind. I love my kids very much, but every year it gets harder for me to carry everything. And home, and work and education.
I'm just so tired of dealing with everything alone. But at the same time, I can’t imagine asking for help after all this time from someone I’ve been so harsh with in the past.
Taking care of even one child requires incredible effort. What about the triplet! As for our heroine, I would like to advise her to forget her doubts and accept help from the father of the boys. Obviously, the ex-husband is willing to take care of the children and the only reason he hasn't done so so far is their mother's categorical refusal.
Of course, sometimes it is difficult to get rid of prejudices, past resentments or give up your pride. But everything happens in life and each of us needs to learn to accept it and try to adapt as much as possible to all life changes.
It should be understood that without taking time for yourself, you will not be able to properly take care of the children. Physical and psychological fatigue will not allow you to do this.
There are situations when the father of the child does not have to wait for help. But even in this case, in the environment of every woman there are relatives and friends on whom you can rely.
Do not be ashamed to ask for help from parents or friends. Of course, they all have their own concerns, their kindness should not be abused. However, sometimes you just need to ask someone for support and give yourself time to relax.
Modern women tend to overestimate their capabilities. Often we just don’t want to admit that we are not coping with something and are afraid to ask for help. We are afraid of being misunderstood or appearing bad (irresponsible, not independent, etc.). But the truth is that everyone has the right to rest and support loved ones.
Even the strongest women sometimes need to take off their armor and trust someone else to accomplish feats. There's nothing wrong with that. Isn't it?
However, many women of the XXI century independently decide to live and raise children without the participation of a man (father). There are many reasons for this decision. But today we will not talk about the reasons, but about the consequences of such a decision.
Often, attempts to combine career and motherhood cause only a chronic feeling of fatigue, which is later very difficult to get rid of.
Today's edition. "Site" He will try to understand why motherhood sometimes takes away the last strength and how to overcome the chronic feeling of fatigue that arose as a result of constant employment.
For example, let’s share with you the story of one of our readers.
Feeling tired: I always aspired to be a flawless mother to my triplets. For 5 years, all my efforts were aimed at creating comfortable conditions for my children. I was confident that their happiness and well-being would automatically become my own. But over the past year, all my works seem to have lost all meaning ..., says 36-year-old Angelina.
“When the boys were born, my husband and I were a model couple. Many of our acquaintances were envious, because the happier family in the district was almost impossible to find.
But after 2 years, my relationship with my husband began to deteriorate. And when the sons celebrated their fourth birthday, petty domestic quarrels turned into real scandals, and I decided to file for divorce.
The husband quickly agreed, so he soon packed up and moved into another apartment. To be honest, at first, his behavior just stunned me. I couldn’t understand how he could so easily give up everything we built and built together. However, after some time, mutual acquaintances confessed to me that for a year he had an affair on the side, so everything immediately fell into place.
My ex-husband's lies made me so angry that I told him not to see the children. For a while he was still trying to offer me some help, but I just couldn't accept it. I think many people will understand why...
It's been a long time since then. Resentment is forgotten, but the offer of help is increasingly coming to mind. I love my kids very much, but every year it gets harder for me to carry everything. And home, and work and education.
I'm just so tired of dealing with everything alone. But at the same time, I can’t imagine asking for help after all this time from someone I’ve been so harsh with in the past.
Taking care of even one child requires incredible effort. What about the triplet! As for our heroine, I would like to advise her to forget her doubts and accept help from the father of the boys. Obviously, the ex-husband is willing to take care of the children and the only reason he hasn't done so so far is their mother's categorical refusal.
Of course, sometimes it is difficult to get rid of prejudices, past resentments or give up your pride. But everything happens in life and each of us needs to learn to accept it and try to adapt as much as possible to all life changes.
It should be understood that without taking time for yourself, you will not be able to properly take care of the children. Physical and psychological fatigue will not allow you to do this.
There are situations when the father of the child does not have to wait for help. But even in this case, in the environment of every woman there are relatives and friends on whom you can rely.
Do not be ashamed to ask for help from parents or friends. Of course, they all have their own concerns, their kindness should not be abused. However, sometimes you just need to ask someone for support and give yourself time to relax.
Modern women tend to overestimate their capabilities. Often we just don’t want to admit that we are not coping with something and are afraid to ask for help. We are afraid of being misunderstood or appearing bad (irresponsible, not independent, etc.). But the truth is that everyone has the right to rest and support loved ones.
Even the strongest women sometimes need to take off their armor and trust someone else to accomplish feats. There's nothing wrong with that. Isn't it?
