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The lost generation: Children of businessmen
Often these people seek help for issues related to parenting or relationships with children.
How to solve problems with children and how to translate problems into challenges.
The first person is usually very flexible and well disposed to the new. Young Kocherov there is a resource in the form of knowledge to the young culture and can better understand the young. the professionalism of the coach is a resource. The coach's age have the experience and knowledge status.
In the mind of the top officials of the company in relation to their children, there is usually the first idea that they want to pass the business to their children (the first thought and idea).
The second thought is the desire to manage their business even if the children are independent and can do it without first person. Desire indirect control over the business (through the children, through spouses, children, through grandchildren).
Third thought – they want children to become high-status people.
Thus, may face the desire of children and the expectations of parents from children..
In this regard, can be traced working with received from the first individual query.
Areas of work
Working with the first persons
The first persons there is a clear belief and mythology that the children should continue the work of the parent.
1) Therefore, it is desirable to save the first person from this mythology.
The first person must be persuaded to maintain a normal relationship with the child even at the cost of refraining from coercion of a child to participate in the business. To debunk the myth that business is more important than the child. Offer to calculate the consequences of improper behavior with a child. To plan the child's Hobbies this activity in the business.
Offer Nikolai Kozlov:
1. The removal of the exclusivity of the problems with children (many of the first persons).
2. If you had the mind for business, then mind your own child will be enough.
3. Let's structureat the situation and the businessmen find excellent solutions.
1) There is a desire to make a baby businessman once. The children are not prepared and they need to learn, like all young employees, swiping through all the floors of career growth.
2) Often, the business of the first person is perceived as a kind of child. It is necessary to explain that children do not always head the business.
Often the first persons a feeling of guilt as a parent, if the children do not want to achieve success in his business.
Vagin I. O. proposes to make a list of what the parent did to the child, and what he did.
And compare what good he has done for the child and compare with what others have done for their children. To give the opportunity to the first person to realize that we are all not perfect. He is not a professional educator, so you can expect yourself from the teacher fantastic success impossible.
The first persons can be emotional reactions to the disobedience of children to their will, to the exclusion of the children from his life.
Vagin I. O. offers to study the training first person with the children.
The purpose of the training is to find civilized ways to resolve conflicts. To teach both sides to discuss the issues and not live in conflict. Sometimes training with the participation of the spouse. And often at home the dictator – is disabled home spouse.
Kozlov offers the following:
"Personal problems: breaks down in emotions (the daughter came in 2 nights), mom feels guilty, she believes that the blame for both, mother blaming in the whole father.
Depending on this, it is necessary to work. Sometimes you don't need to deal with emotions, and it is necessary to teach the procedure of solving this issue. To explain how to arrange, harmonize life so it was very convenient to live. Learn to agree among themselves.
The problems of parents among themselves, quarrels, lack of support, pulling in different directions, pedagogical inconsistency (need to specify a format based on who will work with the child in the future, can sometimes act as a translator between the child and parents, drove parents, sometimes we have to work with everyone)".
Work with children
The classification of children
Work with children first-person
Sometimes the problems with time can be resolved independently, if not to touch them. The methodology does not exist. Impossible to predict, it is necessary to apply.
Question: does in this case meaning the use of suggestion, using Ericksonian hypnosis to enhance only contact of the child with the parent simultaneously leaving the child alone with his desires and directions of movement in the future? What are the ways of reaching a child his antisocial behavior exist so that it is realized? Gestalttherapie can be applied in this and how? I understand that gestalttherapie aimed at the person understand their behavior, not through explanation. Is it possible to shape a child's request to work with him?
In this case, it is necessary to coordinate several aspects of the future business life of a young man. The case should:
1. Like = Needs to become a professional
2. The child must have the ability to a specific activity.
3. To determine the relevance of a people of the future activities of the child (money potential).
1. a clear statement from the parents requirements.
2. the observance of parents these terms.
3. the child must understand that parents can agree.
In this case, the question arises how to avoid this situation and how to act in first person with my business? Someone to take it over and how to ensure a successful future for its floating child?
In my opinion, in this situation the first person will have to accept the weaknesses of the child's potential as a reality and reality. In this situation, it is important psychologically to properly convey what is happening to the first person and to help him make a business decision about the future of both the child and the business, so you do not happen embarrassment from excessive expectations and a broken life the baby.
And pick an activity to a child as under-determination.
I would suggest to calculate the possible events in case the first person will continue to put pressure on the child and give the business to him. And then, the first person will be able to understand what is happening.
As a variant to offer the first person to find a worthy successor who will ensure the successful continuation of the businessmay be organizing a comfortable existence of the child of the first person in the future.
To offer the first person to organize a system of checks and balances, interest successor help and support the child first-person account of the interest of the business and child, a partnership of the successor business, and businessman.
Work with the family
Very difficult to do joint activities a success. Building rapport through negotiations conducted by the psychologist, as well as training new and promising ways of conducting negotiations within the family. The application of techniques of business in family life and Vice versa, the application of techniques used in the family business. One for another source of development and prospects.
Literature that can help in these matters:
1. Status
2. Family, experience, family and business
3. The reputation of a professional
Recommendations of the first persons and working for the future
to educate children from childhood. The selection of a nanny, school, personal contribution – communication. Quite half an hour a day for communication: the correct morning and evening.
to study: to become a skilled educator. To combine training with education. At work doing Sinton, home do the job. Education day, required a half-hour time: morning to ask the child and the right the evening before bedtime.
study becomes leader. Situational leader, the ability to order, delegation. The strongman. All the skills that are needed in business practiced in the family, but if we want results in the business, we have to apply the skills acquired in the family.published
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/poteryannoe_pokolenie_-_deti_biznesmenov
How to solve problems with children and how to translate problems into challenges.
The first person is usually very flexible and well disposed to the new. Young Kocherov there is a resource in the form of knowledge to the young culture and can better understand the young. the professionalism of the coach is a resource. The coach's age have the experience and knowledge status.
In the mind of the top officials of the company in relation to their children, there is usually the first idea that they want to pass the business to their children (the first thought and idea).
The second thought is the desire to manage their business even if the children are independent and can do it without first person. Desire indirect control over the business (through the children, through spouses, children, through grandchildren).
Third thought – they want children to become high-status people.
Thus, may face the desire of children and the expectations of parents from children..
In this regard, can be traced working with received from the first individual query.
Areas of work
Working with the first persons
The first persons there is a clear belief and mythology that the children should continue the work of the parent.
1) Therefore, it is desirable to save the first person from this mythology.
The first person must be persuaded to maintain a normal relationship with the child even at the cost of refraining from coercion of a child to participate in the business. To debunk the myth that business is more important than the child. Offer to calculate the consequences of improper behavior with a child. To plan the child's Hobbies this activity in the business.
Offer Nikolai Kozlov:
1. The removal of the exclusivity of the problems with children (many of the first persons).
2. If you had the mind for business, then mind your own child will be enough.
3. Let's structureat the situation and the businessmen find excellent solutions.
1) There is a desire to make a baby businessman once. The children are not prepared and they need to learn, like all young employees, swiping through all the floors of career growth.
2) Often, the business of the first person is perceived as a kind of child. It is necessary to explain that children do not always head the business.
Often the first persons a feeling of guilt as a parent, if the children do not want to achieve success in his business.
Vagin I. O. proposes to make a list of what the parent did to the child, and what he did.
And compare what good he has done for the child and compare with what others have done for their children. To give the opportunity to the first person to realize that we are all not perfect. He is not a professional educator, so you can expect yourself from the teacher fantastic success impossible.
The first persons can be emotional reactions to the disobedience of children to their will, to the exclusion of the children from his life.
Vagin I. O. offers to study the training first person with the children.
The purpose of the training is to find civilized ways to resolve conflicts. To teach both sides to discuss the issues and not live in conflict. Sometimes training with the participation of the spouse. And often at home the dictator – is disabled home spouse.
Kozlov offers the following:
"Personal problems: breaks down in emotions (the daughter came in 2 nights), mom feels guilty, she believes that the blame for both, mother blaming in the whole father.
Depending on this, it is necessary to work. Sometimes you don't need to deal with emotions, and it is necessary to teach the procedure of solving this issue. To explain how to arrange, harmonize life so it was very convenient to live. Learn to agree among themselves.
The problems of parents among themselves, quarrels, lack of support, pulling in different directions, pedagogical inconsistency (need to specify a format based on who will work with the child in the future, can sometimes act as a translator between the child and parents, drove parents, sometimes we have to work with everyone)".
Work with children
The classification of children
- worst case: dangerous and uncontrollable children being the desire to live up to a major degradation of the personality of the child (often requires the involvement of other professionals), and sometimes acts taming.
- a child stands at a crossroads, which path to choose don't know, not self-determined and at the same time in the business is not involved.
- typical children: abandon the way of the parents, but choose their own path, the conflict parent — child is.
- it so happens that children are driven (weak), and do not meet the requirements of the parent. The child lacks capacity, the potential to meet the expectations of the father.
- not wanting to go to his father's business.
- no contact with children, and want (mental contact is one thing and business is another)
Work with children first-person
- insulation fully antisocial personality, involvement in the assistance of psychiatrists, narcologists, if necessary. Isolation from the influence of antisocial friends. Prioritize: the rate of other children, grandchildren.
Sometimes the problems with time can be resolved independently, if not to touch them. The methodology does not exist. Impossible to predict, it is necessary to apply.
Question: does in this case meaning the use of suggestion, using Ericksonian hypnosis to enhance only contact of the child with the parent simultaneously leaving the child alone with his desires and directions of movement in the future? What are the ways of reaching a child his antisocial behavior exist so that it is realized? Gestalttherapie can be applied in this and how? I understand that gestalttherapie aimed at the person understand their behavior, not through explanation. Is it possible to shape a child's request to work with him?
- adjustment plans when you are at a crossroads, and to determine the potential of children. To start with determine which profession fits the person. Tests help. It helps in self-determination the child experience either at the parent or at a friend's father to bring order to his understanding of the work and its place in life.
In this case, it is necessary to coordinate several aspects of the future business life of a young man. The case should:
1. Like = Needs to become a professional
2. The child must have the ability to a specific activity.
3. To determine the relevance of a people of the future activities of the child (money potential).
- Working with typical children. Says NICK: "you've got to agree with the child about what they believe. But the minimum limits should be. Institute pick, but if he is, then go to this institution." Reasonable is for life, and above all that, we agree.
- Often children of the first persons having a claim that they failed, that is, the child had no potential.
1. a clear statement from the parents requirements.
2. the observance of parents these terms.
3. the child must understand that parents can agree.
In this case, the question arises how to avoid this situation and how to act in first person with my business? Someone to take it over and how to ensure a successful future for its floating child?
In my opinion, in this situation the first person will have to accept the weaknesses of the child's potential as a reality and reality. In this situation, it is important psychologically to properly convey what is happening to the first person and to help him make a business decision about the future of both the child and the business, so you do not happen embarrassment from excessive expectations and a broken life the baby.
And pick an activity to a child as under-determination.
I would suggest to calculate the possible events in case the first person will continue to put pressure on the child and give the business to him. And then, the first person will be able to understand what is happening.
As a variant to offer the first person to find a worthy successor who will ensure the successful continuation of the businessmay be organizing a comfortable existence of the child of the first person in the future.
To offer the first person to organize a system of checks and balances, interest successor help and support the child first-person account of the interest of the business and child, a partnership of the successor business, and businessman.
- Not wanting to go to his father's business. The question is not understood.
Work with the family
Very difficult to do joint activities a success. Building rapport through negotiations conducted by the psychologist, as well as training new and promising ways of conducting negotiations within the family. The application of techniques of business in family life and Vice versa, the application of techniques used in the family business. One for another source of development and prospects.
Literature that can help in these matters:
- Bayard, Robert T., Bayard, Jean. "Your restless teen"
- Hayley J. "Psychotherapy test"
1. Status
2. Family, experience, family and business
3. The reputation of a professional
Recommendations of the first persons and working for the future
to educate children from childhood. The selection of a nanny, school, personal contribution – communication. Quite half an hour a day for communication: the correct morning and evening.
to study: to become a skilled educator. To combine training with education. At work doing Sinton, home do the job. Education day, required a half-hour time: morning to ask the child and the right the evening before bedtime.
study becomes leader. Situational leader, the ability to order, delegation. The strongman. All the skills that are needed in business practiced in the family, but if we want results in the business, we have to apply the skills acquired in the family.published
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
Source: www.psychologos.ru/articles/view/poteryannoe_pokolenie_-_deti_biznesmenov
