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In the East they say that if the wife will respect her husband, it will respect the neighbors, if they will respect the neighbors, respect the village and if the village, and the whole world.

Wives of businessmen, on the one hand, it is easier: their husbands have respect for what they, as a rule, have achieved a lot. On the other hand, spouses of business people more difficult: entrepreneurs often criticize their home, control them and expect obedience. As a rule, Russian women are accustomed to make decisions, it is difficult to accept that rigidity, to refuse wars for control and learn to accept their men for who they are.





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Historically, women in Russia had to be strong. Our grandmothers and great-grandmother during the great Patriotic war, when men went to the front, were forced to assume the male role in the family. But the fact that only a couple of generations ago, it was the key to survival, today, turns into a struggle for power in the family. A man feels a man when responsible not only for themselves but also for the family. If a woman makes important decisions without consulting him, if he believes that submission to man is unacceptable in any case, man will continue to complain on lack of respect. And not always out loud. Sometimes the "complaints" will be manifested in the fact that your once-promising husband will eventually settle on the sofa and instead of conquering the world will passively watch TV.

Learn to respect man not as easy as it seems. A simple example: your husband comes home in the evening and offers something that seems completely unexpected: for example, to quit work (or, conversely, go for it), to move to another country, to take the children for home schooling. You put it mildly, surprised. Just imagine the situation and try to track your reactions. What emotions and thoughts the decision a husband makes you?

If you are angry, indignant, think your husband is selfish and not thinking about you, so you... don't respect your spouse. And he will feel it, even if you silently obey his decision. A much more effective position not to be sought in his words and deeds confirm his fears (that he is selfish, a womanizer, aggressor, greedy or just a moral monster), and to perceive its decisions as something that is done for the good of the family. And from this position you can ask: "And why do you suggest it? As it will be helpful to the family?".

If you are sure that you need to constantly monitor what your man there "narushali", dialogue will not take place. If you trust your man if you think he cares about the family as he can, then he will be ready to hear your position and consider your arguments when making decisions. Respect man, it means to not only trust him but to recognize his status as leader.

If the woman disputes the fact that her husband is the head of the family, if you regularly prove yourself to him and that this role should go to her, this creates the perfect stage for conflict. If for you is more important than the palm of happiness in the family, you'll be ready to give first place to the man who used to manage people at work and are unlikely to want to obey his wife at home.

Think, would you like to marry a gentle man, who did not want? If not, then be prepared to put up with a "cost" of the male line of behavior, rigidity, directness and lack of sentimentality. Especially such strategy is typical for entrepreneurs, to the wives which has an important task: to learn to accept your husband and in these manifestations.

It is unlikely your husband will be brutal at work and romantic at home. You should not demand the impossible or to perceive its stiffness too personally. In the end, you do every time I choose — to be offended you to the harsh tone of her husband or to bypass the "sharp corners", remembering that it is not that you did something wrong, and that this is the style of communication your husband used to speaking directly. Quality, worthy of respect, isn't it?

 

Author: Ian Agarunov

Source: snob.ru/profile/28326/blog/77909