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Six levels of affection children
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If everything happens according to nature intended plan in the first six years of life the child develops the ability to bind at different levels.
The first level, from birth, attachment through the senses. To be in physical contact with those who are dear to you, to smell them, to see them.
In the second year of life the child develops the ability to bind by similarity. The child imitates those he loves, trying to be like them in behavior, intonation and preferences.
By the third year develops the ability to be attached by belonging and loyalty. This desire to be on the same side, the desire to possess. "My mother". Jealousy appears.
The above levels of affection shallow, not too vulnerable and may be at a superficial attachment. For example, in gangs, or companies peers.
By the fourth year of life the child has a desire of self-importance, significance in the life of a loved one. Children become softer, more flexible, seeking confirmation of its importance for us.
In the fifth year, the child begins to love.He gives you his heart. Earlier, he said "I love you mom" more than imitating others, but now he "LOVES his mother". Sings songs of love and draws hearts. This affection by means of emotions, a time when the child is physically ready to part with those who are dear to him without significant damage to his psyche.
And finally, the last level of attachment – when you know. The child begins to share their secrets so we can better understand in order to be closer to us. Psychological attachment. It is the deepest level of attachment and the vulnerable. Not every adult has experience a similar attachment.
Our attachment is very vulnerable, vulnerable, vulnerable territory. The main sources of emotional pain – separation (or its expectation), shame, the sense of insecurity. If the child is constantly experiencing emotional pain in their affections, his heart starts to harden, and he can not be linked at deeper levels. A child needs to feel complete security in its affection to be deeply attached.published
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Source: b17.ru/article/40604/
The first level, from birth, attachment through the senses. To be in physical contact with those who are dear to you, to smell them, to see them.
In the second year of life the child develops the ability to bind by similarity. The child imitates those he loves, trying to be like them in behavior, intonation and preferences.
By the third year develops the ability to be attached by belonging and loyalty. This desire to be on the same side, the desire to possess. "My mother". Jealousy appears.
The above levels of affection shallow, not too vulnerable and may be at a superficial attachment. For example, in gangs, or companies peers.
By the fourth year of life the child has a desire of self-importance, significance in the life of a loved one. Children become softer, more flexible, seeking confirmation of its importance for us.
In the fifth year, the child begins to love.He gives you his heart. Earlier, he said "I love you mom" more than imitating others, but now he "LOVES his mother". Sings songs of love and draws hearts. This affection by means of emotions, a time when the child is physically ready to part with those who are dear to him without significant damage to his psyche.
And finally, the last level of attachment – when you know. The child begins to share their secrets so we can better understand in order to be closer to us. Psychological attachment. It is the deepest level of attachment and the vulnerable. Not every adult has experience a similar attachment.
Our attachment is very vulnerable, vulnerable, vulnerable territory. The main sources of emotional pain – separation (or its expectation), shame, the sense of insecurity. If the child is constantly experiencing emotional pain in their affections, his heart starts to harden, and he can not be linked at deeper levels. A child needs to feel complete security in its affection to be deeply attached.published
P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! © Join us at Facebook , Vkontakte, Odnoklassniki
Source: b17.ru/article/40604/
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