9 thoughts that avoid psychologically hardy people

If we decided to make a list of the most important factors that determine the success of a person, the first place in it, no doubt, would have taken the power of the spirit and psychological endurance.

Psychological endurance is the ability of a person to move forward and achieve new heights to the best of their skills and talents, regardless of external circumstances.

A natural response to defeat, failure or embarrassment is a feeling of frustration and oyasuminasai. Most of us come after in the normal state and to overcome defeatist thinking is very difficult and requires a lot of time.



Known psychotherapist Amy Morin wrote a book called "13 thoughts that avoid psychologically hardy people" in which he outlined his conclusions about how I think or rather, what thoughts to ignore strong-minded and successful people. The good news is that mindset can be corrected. Everyone, if you want, can do it.

So here's what never do strong in spirit, successful person:

They are not wasting time feeling sorry for myselfto get Upset and feel depressed, when everything turns to dust – it is perfectly natural. You were fired. You are bankrupt. You are on the verge of divorce. There are a lot of really serious reasons for depression.

Meanwhile, the strong spirit of the people is distinguished by the ability to quickly return to its normal state and continue to move forward. They do not spend time and effort to again and again to chew in mind the problems of the past. Instead, they use all the resources for the future.

They do not allow others to use their weaknessesare Very easy to blame their failures on someone else, but in such a way that you give someone power over him.

Eleanor Roosevelt once saidthat "no one can make you feel worthless without your consent."

Other people don't have to deal with you according to your expectations, but you can control your reaction to what is happening. Don't let others use your feelings and emotions for their own purposes.

They do not hide from the changesEinstein had defined insanity as the tendency to "do the same thing again and again expecting different results." Change is hard. That is why most of the people hiding from them, comfortably sitting in his usual shell.

Instead of having to hide in the sink even deeper, use failure as a springboard for change. Move to another city. Start a new relationship. Find a new job. Don't be afraid of change.

They do not spend time on something that they are not dependent onOne of the greatest Greek philosophers Epictetus said that all existing things in the world are divided into two types:

1) those that we can control

2) those that are beyond our control.

He believed that people should focus all your energy on what he can control, because "if you chase after an elusive goal, it will be doomed to failure."

So don't worry about what you cannot control. Better find yourself a more productive activity.

They are eager to please othersIf you don't decide to speak their mind, no-one will know. To show other people what you represent is your task. Only depends on you, how you present yourself to the world.

It may seem paradoxical, but the more you try to please others, the less they respect you. It is a fact. Strong-willed people know exactly what they want and how much they are willing to sacrifice to achieve its goals.

You will not be able to live a full, truly your life until you stop worrying about "how you see others."

They are not outraged when the other isWilliam Shakespeare once wrote: "Some are born great, some achieve greatness, some greatness is imposed"

Someone is lucky more, someone less. That's life. If someone something has got a gift, it does not mean that the world is obliged to give you an equal prize. Instead of lamenting about injustice, it is better to focus on what you have already achieved and realize that you too have something to be thankful – not least the presence of a roof over your head and food in the fridge.

They are not afraid of lonelinessPsychologically weak people are afraid to be alone because they don't want others to think that they have no friends. The strong can stand alone, without discomfort and uncertainty. On the contrary, they are able to enjoy the time that you can spend alone.

They do not believe that the world owes them something"the Best years of life are those when you acknowledge their problems alone, — to this conclusion after years of research came a psychologist from Columbia University albert Ellis.You no longer shift the blame for their failures on the mother, environmental situation, or of the President and realize that you and only you are responsible for your own destiny."

To think that the world owe you anything – stupid. It is better to direct your thoughts in a more productive direction.

They do not expect fast results,Billionaire Warren Buffett once said: "no matter how great your talents and how hard you work, some things take time. It is impossible to get a baby in a month by knocking nine women".

To obtain good results takes time. Haste often ends with the man exhaled and started throwing.


P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©

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