If we decided to compile a list of the most important factors that determine a person's success, the first place in it, no doubt, would have taken the power of the spirit and the psychological resistance
Psychological resistance is called a person's ability to move forward and reach new heights, the most effective use of their skills and talents, regardless of external circumstances.
The natural reaction to defeat, failure or embarrassment - a sense of frustration and uyazvlёnnosti. Most of us come then to the normal state and overcome the defeatist thoughts are very complicated, and it requires a lot of time.
Renowned psychotherapist Amy Morin wrote a book called "13 ideas that avoid the psychologically hardy people," which sets out its findings about how people think, or rather, what thoughts ignore strong spirit and successful people. The good news is that the way of thinking, you can correct it. Everyone, if you wish, can do it.
So here's that never make the strong-willed, successful person:
< They do not waste time feeling sorry for yourself
Frustrating and feel depressed when all goes ashes - it is quite natural. You got fired. You ruined. You are on the verge of divorce. There are a lot of really serious cause for discouragement.
Meanwhile, strong-minded people differentiates the ability to quickly return to normal and continue to move forward. They do not spend time and energy on something to chew over and over again in his mind the problem of the past. On the contrary, they use all of the resources for the future.
< They do not allow others to use their weaknesses
It's easy to blame their failures on someone else, but in a way you grant this "someone" power over.
Eleanor Roosevelt once said that "no one can make you feel worthless without your consent».
Other people do not have to deal with you according to your expectations and ideas, but you may well control your own reaction to what is happening. Do not allow others to use your senses and emotions for their own purposes.
< They are not hidden from the changes
Einstein defined insanity as a tendency to "do the same thing over and over again, expecting different results." Change - it's hard. That is why most people are hiding from them comfortably in their usual shell.
Rather than clog in the sink even deeper, use the setback as a springboard for change. Move to another city. Start a new relationship. Find a new job. Do not be afraid of change.
< They do not spend time on something that they are not dependent
One of the greatest Greek philosopher Epictetus said that all existing things in the world are divided into two types: 1) those that we are subject to, and 2) those that are beyond us. He believed that people should focus all their energy on what they can control, because "if you are chasing the elusive goal, you will be doomed to failure».
So do not worry that you are not dependent. It is better to find a more productive activity.
< They are not eager to please others
If you do not dare to express their thoughts, none of them do not know. Show other people that you represent - it's just your job. Only it depends on you, how you present yourself outside world.
It may seem paradoxical, but the more you try to please others, the less they respect you. It is a fact. Strong-willed people know exactly what they want and how much they are willing to sacrifice in order to achieve the desired.
You will not be able to live a full, truly his life until stop worrying about "how you look at other».
< They are not outraged when success goes to another
William Shakespeare once wrote: "Some are born great, some achieve greatness, and some have greatness imposed»
Someone carries more someone less. That is life. If someone has got something for nothing, it does not mean that the world is obliged to give you a prize of equal value. Instead of lamenting over the injustice, it is better to focus on what you have already achieved and to realize that you, too, have something to be thankful - even though the presence of a roof over their head and food in the refrigerator
< They are not afraid of loneliness
Psychologically weak people are afraid to be alone, because they do not want others to think that they have no friends. Strengths can be alone without discomfort and uncertainty. On the contrary, they are able to enjoy the time, which can spend alone with yourself.
< They do not believe that the world has something to them must
"The best years of his life - the ones that you acknowledge their problems only by their - to this conclusion after many years of research came from Columbia University psychologist Albert Ellis. - You stop to shift the blame for their failure on the mother or the environmental situation of the president and realize that you and only you are responsible for their own destiny »
Recognize that the world is something you have to - it is silly. It is better to direct their thoughts in a more productive direction.
< They do not expect quick results
Billionaire Warren Buffett once said: "No matter how great your talent and how hard you work, some things take time. Unable to get the child in the past month, knock up nine women. »
For best results take time. Excessive haste often ends with the person exhales and gives up.
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